Tully’s Birthday Special/
- October 20, 2020
It’s Tully’s birthday this week, and she shares her top 33 life lessons that she’s collected in her 33 laps around the sun.
On today’s episode:
- Tully tells Jess about her birthday plans in lockdown
- Tully takes us through her 33 life lessons. Some are light and fluffy, others are heartfelt, all are wise.
This podcast is produced by BIG MEDIA COMPANY.
Tully Smyth: [00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to episode 14, too much Tali in true tele form. I have decided to dedicate this entire episode to my birthday. If you know me, you know how much I love birthdays. I'm one of those really annoying people that drag it out as long as possible, organize multiple events claim the entire month as their own.
It's so liberal of me. This year, obviously it will be a little bit different. Thanks to all my COVID. So we thought we'd come in here and celebrate with you guys. Instead 2020 has given us so much time to stop think and reflect. So I thought I'd share with you some of my little life lessons I've collected in my 33 years around the sun.
So jazz hop on that party hat, I go top yourself up.
Jess Lucas: [00:00:44] Happy.
Tully Smyth: [00:00:49] Yeah.
Okay. It's not about everybody. I was just about to
Jess Lucas: [00:00:56] my hot.
Tully Smyth: [00:00:58] Um, so
Jess Lucas: [00:00:59] it was your birthday on Sunday and, uh, when people are listening now it will have passed. Um,
Tully Smyth: [00:01:04] sorry. What did you have planned?
Jess Lucas: [00:01:06] What did you do? Did you have a good. We
Tully Smyth: [00:01:09] don't know that answer yet. I can not predict, have a good day. You guys just FYI, Jess, isn't feeling a hundred percent today.
She's just popped some arm falls and some Panadol. So who knows what version of her we're going to get today, but we're going to, we're going to pass the vehicle we're going to push on. Um, so obviously, yeah, COVID sucks. COVID sucks. I know I'm not the only person that's had to have a covert lockdown at birthday this year.
So I won't harp on about it. You know, it's definitely a first world problem. Uh, it is a little bit sad because I had really, really fun plans. I'd actually booked this amazing, amazing farm house in, um, new South Wales in Mudgee, which is a area that I spent a bit of time in growing up really beautiful area.
It's kind of one country vibes and it's one of those Pinterest like it like amazing Airbnbs you see on Pinterest, like it's incredible. I was going to have eight friends come and stay with me. Some from Melbourne, some from Sydney, it was going to be incredible. And I really, really, really been looking forward to it all year.
I booked it back in like February and it was kind of this thing, keeping me going, you know, it's the same so far away originally, it was like, Oh, everything will be fine. Come October. There's no way this will still be going on in October. And the owners of the property actually reached out a few times. So our Instagram, we just checked in with each other and.
I think maybe in like August, she was like, Hey, like just checking in, you know, you still keen to come up in October and I'm like, yep, absolutely. Like, there's no way this will still be Republic. Like October is so safe. And then probably about two weeks ago, she messaged me again and I saw her name pop up in my DMS and I was like, Oh God, no, I knew what was coming.
And I probably knew in my heart that I had to do it a couple of weeks prior, but I was just holding out that last little slither of hope. And she was like, Hey, so, and I'm like, yeah, you know what? I don't want to stuff you guys around, like, they're so busy. They're booked out. Like all year. I was like, yeah, let's just cancel the booking.
So that was super, super sad and really disappointing because yeah, I admit that not only could I, I can't go home for my birthday and see my friends and family, but it also meant that there's one thing, you know, this sort of glimmering light at the end of the long, long, long, long, long tunnel with has been 2020.
It was. Snuffed out. So, I mean, now our only options really is a picnic, right? With four of your closest friends
Jess Lucas: [00:03:28] at, to our picnic, how
Tully Smyth: [00:03:29] exciting I actually would love to do that. It would be very, very, very, very difficult for me to pick four friends from only one other household. Dark dark have three of my closest friends that just so happened to be housemates in one share house.
So it's near impossible to do that. And then on top of that, if you look at the forecast, it's a showers on Sunday. So yeah, that's probably about my 2020 summed up really in one birthday plan.
Jess Lucas: [00:04:03] I think you're going to celebrate for you though. I do
Tully Smyth: [00:04:05] something at home. I think probably way, you know, most likely my Sunday will be like every other Sunday and look down, uh, just Peter and I getting walk y'all wasted on pet nets, which our new favorite thing, uh, on the couch, I have a feeling that maybe we'll be playing some Taylor Swift if she allows me.
Um, and that will probably be about it. Yeah.
Jess Lucas: [00:04:26] It's your birthday. You can listen to
Tully Smyth: [00:04:27] Taylor, if you want to. I know you're
Jess Lucas: [00:04:30] right. So you're turning 33.
Tully Smyth: [00:04:31] I am the ripe old age of 33. Do I look okay? Just
Jess Lucas: [00:04:35] not at
Tully Smyth: [00:04:36] all. You look great.
Jess Lucas: [00:04:38] You've achieved so much. Um, and I thought for this episode, um, you know, within a short time of knowing you, um, I've already got, uh, an amazing sense of how wise you are.
Um, you've lived through a lot in your lifetime from, you know, your mom passing away to big brother and being lesbian to now being straight. Um, You've achieved a lot throughout your entire life. So I asked you to jot down your top 33 life lessons to share with me and your listeners. And you've done that.
I've had a quick skim and it looks really comprehensive. So will you take us through it?
Tully Smyth: [00:05:12] Absolutely. Yeah, you did. And I thought at first I was like, I don't think I have 33 gyms of wisdom to pass on. And then I sat down and of course, as usual with me, I just started writing and writing and then forgot that I wasn't writing a novel.
Um, I was like, oops, let's scale this right back. So I've elaborated on some, some are more sort of top line, but, um, let me take you through them. Okay. There were no particular order, by the way, I just, I wrote these, I jumped around, um, I came back and put shorter rounds in between longer ones. So there are no particular order.
Number one on Teles top. 33 lessons, life lessons. Yeah, fresh is best fresh out fresh food, fresh flowers gone are the days where I would crank the air con up in my car to Arctic temperatures. These days I relish in the fact that it's a nice day out. I crack up in a window, pop up in my new sunroof and feel the cool breeze on my face and for a split second.
Remember how lucky I am to be happy and healthy. Brilliant. Number two. Always, always, I don't care how wacko Weiss did you. I don't care that you've just polished off the Kaibab and texted your ex boyfriend 40 times to no response. We'll be there. Always, always take your makeup off before bed like that is a nonnegotiable and bonus points for taking out your contacts and putting in your retainer.
I always knew that a bad woken up and I was Sans contacts. But with my retainer in, I was like, good girl, good girl. I don't anymore. I had laser eye surgery, but I did my contacts and I would often pass out with them in my eyeballs. And that is not a fun time. Let me just say I had an ex boyfriend who
Jess Lucas: [00:06:47] used to wear contacts every day and he would just take them out at nighttime.
Just PIV them across the
Tully Smyth: [00:06:51] bed daily. I, yeah, you have daily. So you have like, monthly's. Regardless. Don't do that. That's disgusting. That's you go to the sink
Jess Lucas: [00:06:59] and they'd just be sitting there. It's like
Tully Smyth: [00:07:01] they also shave down. They dry up and get going, but he can shatter them
Jess Lucas: [00:07:05] through any bizarre.
Tully Smyth: [00:07:06] Okay. Ken number three, a book is never a waste of money.
Buy them, pass them on and recommend to you have girlfriends. You can never have enough books. I've lived by that since I was very little. And before, let your past make you better. Not better. That's thinking that one's a really good one. Number five. It's cool to be kind. It honestly costs nothing to be a kind human being.
And often it's the smallest gestures that can totally flip someone's day around, especially in these uncertain, anxious times. All it takes is a quick smile and a wave when I'm trying to merge lanes. And I literally almost tear up at the kindness of human beings. Earlier this year, I had a white, she was telling me how much she liked my dress and my entire night was made it literally put a smile on my face for the rest of the night.
I've always been pretty thoughtful, um, in terms of like sending cards and flowers, just because, but I think I'm going to endeavor to keep an eye out for more of those. Golden little opportunities this year. Cause I think they seriously make a difference and I suggest you guys do too.
Jess Lucas: [00:08:06] Can I just make a point here?
Tully Smyth: [00:08:08] I get so
Jess Lucas: [00:08:09] mad when people don't give you that nice little like acknowledgement wave with
Tully Smyth: [00:08:13] the car. That's cause you're from the country.
Jess Lucas: [00:08:15] Yeah. Okay. Maybe, but
Tully Smyth: [00:08:16] I need to
Jess Lucas: [00:08:17] do it. I'm like seeding behind the wheel mind.
Tully Smyth: [00:08:20] It's not even about it's about manners. Like if I. You know, if I eat with my knife and fork properly, and if I keep my elbows off the table and if I don't leak my knife.
And if I say, please, and thank you, then I'm going to say, please, and thank you when someone does me a favor, such as let me and I always do it without fail. I do true. The old nod. I make it really obvious. Like if I think they're not looking at me, like if I thank them and then looking out the window, I keep it there until I see it.
I want them to feel like knowledge.
Jess Lucas: [00:08:46] Yeah. Great.
Tully Smyth: [00:08:47] Number six, offer to split the bill on a first date. Now, this is contentious. This is what I do. If he insists on paying, let him pay and be appreciative. If he takes you up on going Dutch, that's totally fun. So that's going on?
Jess Lucas: [00:09:04] I was going to ask thought I have no idea.
I just assumed
Tully Smyth: [00:09:06] okay. Going down me and splitting the bill. Yep. Um, and if you, but if he allows you to get the whole thing, then that's a red flag by, onto the next one. Number seven, there is nothing more powerful than silence. Ladies, listen up, do not text him the longer you hold out, the more power you hold.
And soon enough you'll realize that either you don't care to hear from him or you've moved on, like, it, it, you, it suddenly you think you're doing it the first playing a game, you think you're playing a game. You're like, okay, I'll just keep, you know, it's been three days that wait one more day. And then before, you know, it's been a week and you're like, I actually don't even care if your applies or not.
So it works. It works in two ways. I've always lived by that too. It's so good. Number eight, indecisive say I'm a liberal I'm so indecisive. This is a trick that I found out from a friend at a party probably about, I don't know, 10 years ago. And I have done it ever since. And it sounds so simple, but it is mind blowingly accurate.
Okay. So if you're really indecisive and you've got two options and you can't make a decision, if you ever find yourself unable to make a decision, you take a coin. Right. And you go, okay, heads. I do this task to do that. You flip it. And then as soon as it's in the air, you're in your head wanting it to land on something you want.
I mean, like if you're like, Oh, do I want KFC or McDonald's for dinner? I don't know. I really don't know. I don't know. Flip a coin the minute you said that coin go up in the air. You're thinking MCAS, MCAS, MCAS. You're hoping it lands on something, right? That is your answer. What's
Jess Lucas: [00:10:38] your favorite side of the coin
Tully Smyth: [00:10:40] heads?
Oh once tales. That makes sense. A little part of horses. Cute. Mommy was using 20 cent coin because any coin I know it's just the perfect size. I mean, you're right. It is. You can't really use a 50 cent coin Kenya to QB. Number nine, find a good psychologist, invest the time and money. Same goes with the good hair colorist.
Jess Lucas: [00:11:01] do it. I mean, I don't really need
Tully Smyth: [00:11:06] palms over there. Number 10, take care of your skin. It is the biggest organ we've got. So this ones, no brainer, but the older I get, the more I realized the importance of taking care of your skin. I'm very, very lucky that mine tends to be clear spot. Thanks, mom. Um, but pretty soon, it's going to start heading South.
I'm going to start having those jowls that get, when you get be the elasticity. It's going to leave my buddy. Um, so I've definitely upped my skincare routine of light for the first time in my life. I'm seeing a dermatologist more regularly that I'm seeing my JP and she's working wonders. Shout out to Daria from Victorian demograph.
She's literally a skin angel, but sunscreen, serums, not cream hail I'm even using a cleanser. Semi-regularly sorry. I'm a whole new woman. Number 11 exercise in the morning before your brain. It figures out what you're doing. Exercise is something that I've fought off for so long, but it's truly been live changing, especially when it comes to my anxiety.
So if you're looking for a sign to get up and sweat, this is it. Number 12, nothing. Okay. Food happens after 2:00 AM. I promise you, it doesn't order that Aruba get max on the way home. Do you agree? Yes, I agree.
Jess Lucas: [00:12:18] I'm not a massive Nadal, but yeah, nothing ever has what has happened after two o'clock.
Tully Smyth: [00:12:23] I am a mess of not out.
And I'm also a bit of a party girl, and I also struggle with FOMO. So there's been so many times when I've been over the night or it's just kind of come to a natural end. I'm like, no, but you know, no one else is going home. Just go home, just go home. You'll never regret it. You will never regret going home before 2:00 AM.
What you will regret is waking up at some random's house an hour from where you live with birds chirping and some nondescript, Dorf music playing and like wearing some random boys jump. Like that's what you regret. Go ahead before 2:00 AM. Number 13, never settle with anything in life, but mainly when it comes to dating, I've been single for a very long time now, because I know what I want and what it is from a partner.
And I'm not willing to settle for, for near enough. You just have the world do not accept an Atlas.
Jess Lucas: [00:13:16] I love that saying, can you please explain it to
Tully Smyth: [00:13:18] everyone? Well, I've always said, you know, often guys promise the world and then give you an Atlas. So you deserve the entire universe. You did not deserve a bit of paper.
That's like, here is Africa. Here is Russia is Australia. You said everything. Um, so wait, it's coming. Number 14. I mean, is it something that I still need to go back on, but it's something that I wish I had done sooner. So heed my advice, ladies and gentlemen. Open a separate savings account. That's one that's not linked to your main account that you use every day.
I have an ING account read the barefoot investor. That is honestly, it is a reason is always the top seller, you know, top read best books of the world. Read it, goddamn, read it. Um, organize a set and forget to posit into there and do it today. When this podcast is finished, put your phone down, open your laptop and open a new bank account.
You never know when you might need a chunk of change to get you out of a pickle, whether it's, you know, um, you suddenly blow four tires at once or, you know, God forbid your packet sick and you haven't got pet insurance. You don't know when you might need quite a big chunk of change. And if you don't have savings, like I didn't have savings for most of my life.
That can be really, really stressed.
Jess Lucas: [00:14:36] Yeah. I think you always need an emergency fund for that kind of thing and yeah. I've actually read barefoot as well. And I've implemented those. I can
Tully Smyth: [00:14:43] splurge splurge, smile, far extinguisher, and has
Jess Lucas: [00:14:47] been, always saying a little bit different. So in Bendigo where I'm from, um, we have the Bendigo bank, um, and they used to have a Christmas.
Well, they still do. I think I don't bank with them anymore, but, um, a Christmas club account. And so every pay or every week, whatever it was as I was growing up, you would. Top money into it. And then at around Christmas time, when you go to buy Christmas gifts for friends and family and stuff, you would have access to it, but you couldn't access it before then.
Tully Smyth: [00:15:14] That's a great
Jess Lucas: [00:15:15] idea. So I was always putting more in than I actually needed for
Tully Smyth: [00:15:19] precedence of whatever you were.
Jess Lucas: [00:15:21] Well, it's the only way I could say
Tully Smyth: [00:15:23] yes, Lucas move. Uh, I'm such a loser. Ana, they gotta lose, like you just organized and like mature and like wise. Um, you're the angel on my shoulder and like you're the angel and someone showed up and I'm the devil Michelle though.
Jess Lucas: [00:15:37] I'm glad we can provide birth
Tully Smyth: [00:15:38] forever. That's why the focus is still well.
Jess Lucas: [00:15:40] Anyway, save,
Tully Smyth: [00:15:41] save, save, save, save, save number 15. Don't be afraid to fuck up. You are human being. We all fuck up. We're humans. That's what we do. Literally. Every single person on this planet has fucked up in a major way. At some point in their life.
I mean, I fucked up, I fucked up on national television and look at me. I'm fine. I'm doing just fine. So don't be afraid about it. Like people do it. People aren't mistakes, number 16. So many people love you. Don't focus on the people who don't,
Jess Lucas: [00:16:13] you can't change it.
Tully Smyth: [00:16:14] No. And obviously with my line of work, if I focused on the people that don't like me, I would be a very sad and miserable person.
Number 17 don't stress too much about exams. Now I was a massive stress head growing up. Um, whether it's uni exams, school exams. I, in fact, now yearbook, I got a couple of awards. I got most likely to become a famous really how funny.
Jess Lucas: [00:16:41] And always been an extrovert. Haven't you
Tully Smyth: [00:16:43] a little bit? Um, not that I'm famous.
I don't think I'm famous in any way, shape or form, but you know, in comparison to everybody else in my finishing year at my high school, I'm probably the most, well, let's say infamous showing. Um, I got second best legs. Yeah. Still salty about that. Still have not second. Best legs are second best. Sorry.
Jess Lucas: [00:17:05] Sorry. So sorry.
Tully Smyth: [00:17:06] Number two second. Best legs. I mean, when you say these pins, have you seen them? Yeah, I have grind. Yeah. You know what? It was Sarah. Raymond. This is how, this is how much I've not moved on from this Sarah fucking Raymond. And if you're listening to this episode, you went to my high school.
Shout out to my Riverside girls, high girls. I know you guys listen to every episode and look, Sarah, you're a lovely girl, you really up, but you just didn't have as good a legs as I did. You just didn't want it simpler. No, she was just very, um, she was like very like skinny and lanky. And so it has like little like chopsticks.
Jess Lucas: [00:17:36] And so what you also were, what Turner?
Tully Smyth: [00:17:39] I was also like he ever had that.
And then I also got, um, most likely to have a nervous breakdown during the HSA. Which is similar to a VCA, um, because yeah, before every big thing, damn, I would vomit into this metal bin outside the school hall. I just got really worked up about it. Yeah. And, you know, end of the day, like study hard, take it seriously for sure.
Like, I was really serious about school. I was really serious about university. But honestly it isn't the be all and end all in life, like nobody. And it's something that I was told when I was, and it really helped nobody asks what your entrance score was after your 12, literally nobody. Yeah. You never have to tell anybody what you got during your final exams ever again in your life.
Jess Lucas: [00:18:26] And I think the other thing to consider as well is that there's
Tully Smyth: [00:18:28] always other pathways into
Jess Lucas: [00:18:29] what you want to do. You don't have to go straight to university. You can go in mature age and it's just, you know, it might be an extra. Maybe, yeah, whatever it is, but, or another course, but you can always do it.
And that's probably the right path. The
Tully Smyth: [00:18:42] are always pathways for sure. Number 18. Tell them what you like in bed. Like no matter how cute they are, they're not mind readers. So tell them, show them. If you have to number 19, you can't make people love you the way you want them to. No, that's something that I have struggled with a lot growing up.
I thought for a very long time that if I just love someone hard enough, if I just committed wholeheartedly, if I just squeezed them and was just there constantly that that would be enough, but end of the day, yeah, you can't make someone love you the way you want them to. And it's a really harsh life lesson, but it's the sooner you get your head around that.
The better trust me. Do you think that that comes back to love languages?
Jess Lucas: [00:19:33] Or is that more a you talking more about just generally, like you want them to love you more
Tully Smyth: [00:19:38] maybe? No, I think so. I think sometimes it's, you know, similar in a similar life lesson. I remember learning off my phone. It was very big breakup and my first big heartbreak that I think growing up, you know, there is that sort of like, Oh, mad at Disney Disney, there is this sort of Disney.
Fantasy. And he grew up as a little girl and you think that, you know, love, you know, and I think that as you get older, you realize that sometimes love. Yeah, isn't enough sometimes just because two people love each other doesn't mean it's going to work. It doesn't mean it's healthy. Um, and I think that that's a really important life lesson to wrap your head around.
Number 20 family is everything. Growing up family, kind of a given, you know, mum and dad are always around annoying, but they mean, well, your siblings are the bane of your existence, but also kind of fun sometimes. And then as you get older, you start to realize that actually mom and dad won't always be around.
I think watching your parents get older and sometimes seek is absolutely terrifying and losing a parent as was living away from home quality time with my siblings is also something that I've learned to appreciate more. Cause I'm, you know, I don't leave up in Sydney with them. Don't cry, Jeff. She's not crying.
Does the sniffles, um, you know, these two boys, one small than me and now grown man both with their own lives. And I think that I definitely want to focus on making more of an effort for them to be a part of mine this year. Number 21. And I've kind of touched on this briefly earlier, get insurance. Health insurance, car insurance, pet insurance, phone insurance.
Yes. It seems like a stupid amount of money that you don't have at the time. But trust me, the safety net yeah. Is worth it. When we got Luna, I think we had her for maybe two days, maybe three days. And she was playing in our backyard and she got sick. My bait on right on her nose tip of her nose. She was tiny.
She was, she weighed less than a, um, a tub of butter. And because she was so small, um, her nose swell up so bit badly. She couldn't breathe and it was, you know, it was horrific. It was so scary. And so we rushed, rushed that to the vet and we hadn't had, you know, we had it for three days. We hadn't even thought about pet insurance yet.
And the vet bill was astronomical and had we had pet insurance, they would have covered, I think, 80% of it. So. Trust me guys. I know, especially when you're a bit younger, when you're 21, 22, 23, you're like, Oh, what, when you buy a new iPhone, you know, they're like, Oh, for an extra couple of hundred bucks, you know, do you want insurance?
You go, Oh, now I won't smash it. You will. I know you will switch it. Multiple times
Jess Lucas: [00:22:18] I have never had phone insurance and I really should get it, but I'm a massive believer in all kinds of insurance. But the other thing to point out is to get insurance that actually suits your needs. So I went to have, um, a surgery and I was going to get a breast reduction.
And so I was all booked in. I'm ready to go the plastic surgeon.
Tully Smyth: [00:22:39] And it was,
Jess Lucas: [00:22:41] uh, Oh yeah, they are. Um, they. It was all covered by like, um, but it wasn't cosmetic. It was, um, bloody, what am I
Tully Smyth: [00:22:51] trying to say? He
Jess Lucas: [00:22:52] like medical cause like medical paid and stuff. Yeah. The pain and stuff. Um, but my insurance didn't cover it because I was still on young health insurance or something like that.
So that only covered like a knee Rico or, you know, emergency services and that kind of, so just make sure that you're covered for what you might need in the future. Particularly if you're looking to have
Tully Smyth: [00:23:09] kids. That is a great, great, great, great bit of advice because I realized a couple of years off when I got my laser eye surgery, that I was still paying for like full optical, like as I used to, I used to use it to get money back on my contacts and my optometrist appointments.
And it was thing. It was like a year later after my LASIK surgery. And I was like, wait a minute. I don't have any contacts anymore. Wife, hang for them. Yeah. Okay. Number 22, love rewards. The brave. I actually wanted this tattooed on me. And we spoke about this, you know, episode with violet Benson as my sort of one bit of advice.
I've loved this saying since I was very little, I think as a wise wise, Juho called the Veronica is once said, if you love someone, then tell them right now. And I think one thing that I will definitely be proud of on my death bed is that I have never, ever held back when it came to telling someone how I loved them.
You know, I never, I never hold back when it comes to telling someone how I feel. And that's something that I am proud of. You are very
Jess Lucas: [00:24:07] open in that
Tully Smyth: [00:24:08] area. I am. You are not number 22. I love you. I love you too. Number 23. If you're thinking about breaking up with them, break up with them. If you are in a happy and healthy relationship, you won't even be thinking about that.
There is so many times I've had girlfriends be like, Oh, I don't know. Or like, I'm just thinking, you know, I'm thinking it might be over. I'm like, honey, if you're thinking that, then you should just end it now. You're delaying the inevitable, like let them be free so they can go find their person. Number 24, always wear nice underwear on a night out.
You never know. We are not. It's going to take you haven't we? No, we haven't. Okay. Well,
Jess Lucas: [00:24:51] that's just me.
Tully Smyth: [00:24:55] Hi, I don't know. This is, this is setting a high bar. And so this is why I didn't add this into sort of the number one bit of advice, but I, if I go out, I will always be wearing a matching underwear, matching bra and undies. What the hell boys? It's just too hard. I mean, we've already embarrassment of bringing a really hot guy home and taking your clothes off and you wearing like w you know, pan number four of the seven, seven, you know, seven days a week, big w pack.
That that is hard. Well,
Jess Lucas: [00:25:28] that's true. I mean, I wouldn't even own that kind of, is that what you were?
Tully Smyth: [00:25:31] They you're like, no, I have. I have a lingerie drawer. I don't have an undo drawer. I have a lunge DRO.
Jess Lucas: [00:25:40] Yeah. I see. You would have that. I have like, I have nice knickers, but like
Tully Smyth: [00:25:44] then you've also got exercise.
Do I just have like these like seamless I'm like playing ball G strings, like a hundred of them in black. Okay. Number 25, do not waste time worrying about things that are out of your control. Most of the stuff people worry about never happens. Amen. And again, that sounds really simplified and clean and like cliche, but really, really break that down and listen to it.
Read that line over and over again. Do not waste time worrying about things that are out of your control. If you don't have a say in the matter, don't sit at home and make yourself sick thinking about it. It's completely like this Sunday, right? Yeah. You know, I, I like plans. I would like to be able to make a plan for my birthday, but I can't because it's weather dependent and so I'd have to wait and see what the weather is going to do.
The weather is out of my control. So I'm not worrying about it at all. Number 26, invest in fine wine. Let's upon a time, there was a girl named Holly who loved collecting at pennies on a Friday night and splurging on a $5 bottle of passion pop original flavor only. She was also known to go halves in a green bag of fruity Lexia with a girlfriend on Saturday night, not even wince once when she took a sip.
Fast forward a few years and I'm noticing myself venturing further and further down the wine list. My palate has evolved and matured like a fine wine, and I no longer bat an eyelid at the thought of investing in a nice bottle or six life is too short to drink bad wine, except
Jess Lucas: [00:27:28] when you're on a podcast and you want to drink a passion pop person.
Tully Smyth: [00:27:33] That was a walk down memory lane. I didn't hate it. I'm not a snob. This is the thing. I'm not a snob. I'm happy to drink passion, pop. You know, the best thing about going home is in a bag of fruity Lexia girl was that you'd buy on a Friday night and you'd still have plenty to drink on Sunday. Yeah, exactly.
It was an investment really?
Jess Lucas: [00:27:50] Yeah.
Tully Smyth: [00:27:51] Purposes for everything. I'm just saying, as you get older, you appreciate the finer things in life and like expensive cheese and expensive one number 27. Take risks often. Number 28. Make an effort with old friends, there is nothing like a birthday to make you miss the people you might not speak to every day.
Every year, I am blown away by the amount of love I receive and my birthday from people I haven't even seen or spoken to in months, even years, sometimes friends from my primary school, old dorm mates from uni, it really stopped and makes you reflect on the people you've met along the way and how lucky you are to still have them in your life.
Birthdays. That is the best. I love them. Number 29. If a guy wants to see you he'll make the time. If he wants to speak to you, he'll reach out. If he's not, he's just not that into you. Move on. See us, ah, that cuts
Jess Lucas: [00:28:50] deep, but it's very true. I live by that.
Tully Smyth: [00:28:53] Sorry. True. And it hurts when you really like someone you make up all kinds of weight and wonderful reasons and excuses as to why they're not reply.
Oh, but he's had a big day at work or maybe at the gym, you know, in reverse when you really like someone, there is no excuse you make the time. I don't care if you've just had a 16 hour shift. And you're yawning on the couch. You will still be like, Hey, I'm exhausted, but come over and we can watch a movie.
It's so simple. When, you know, if he wants to speak to you, he'll speak to you. If he wants to text you he'll reply to your text. If he's not, he's just not that into you and that's okay. But don't waste your time with him. Number 30, don't worry about be the prettiest person in the room. Work on being the smartest, the funniest.
I love that. That's something that I have had to remind myself of in this industry and in my line of work over the last couple of years, you know, I think that it can be really intimidating sometimes to go to these fancy events and look around and see like actual supermodels and always beautiful people.
When you just think, Oh God, I'm just, I don't fit in here. Or I don't know. You can start to get really narrow head and feel really down yourself. So. But I've something I've realized is that I might not be the best looking in the room, but I tell you what, I'm pretty damn funny. And I know a lot of weed, shit about a lot of weed shit, you know?
Jess Lucas: [00:30:17] And that's
Tully Smyth: [00:30:17] always fun. Yeah, exactly.
Jess Lucas: [00:30:19] Hanging out with fun people.
Tully Smyth: [00:30:20] Exactly. No one wants to stare at a pretty painting. Number 31 strong. Straws. It's strong as the new skinny being strong is sexy. And I feel most sexy when I'm sweaty and puffed after big workout, lumps and bumps and all. Would you agree?
Jess Lucas: [00:30:42] Yeah, I, um,
Tully Smyth: [00:30:44] I do.
I just feel like, you know, I grew up with this mentality, especially in magazines that like you just had to be right fit and, you know, Kate Moss and everyone just made you. I think that you have to be super skinny, even modeling as a young teenager. I wanted to be so skinny. I think that's hot anymore. I think strong is hot.
I think having, you know, feeling strong in yourself is the sexiest thing of all. Yeah. In my opinion, number 32, almost at the end already getting close behind everyone you meet is fighting a battle. You know, nothing
Jess Lucas: [00:31:15] about yeah. Yeah. You never know what someone's going through.
Tully Smyth: [00:31:19] That's something that I really try to remind myself, especially in the social media world we live in, you just never know.
So just always err, on the side of caution and always err, on the side of caution. Yes.
Jess Lucas: [00:31:30] And I think it's nice to yeah. Lift people up as well. Like don't be
Tully Smyth: [00:31:35] hating. As I told him, there was so much negativity already going on. Just try not to be a comp and number 33. I said, I said they went in order, but I kind of left this one til the end on purpose.
Fall in love with yourself before you waste your energy, falling in love with anybody else, be your own hype girl, because you're pretty great. And there's nobody else in the world. Just like you. Holly. Thank you. Oh, there's a problem. I mean, I probably have like 33 wall, but we'll wait till I get to 66 showers.
Yes, no, my math is so bad. I told you that
Jess Lucas: [00:32:15] one has gone
Tully Smyth: [00:32:16] to your head. Did you learn anything? Do you feel like, do you feel like you've just got some pearls of wisdom to take home?
Jess Lucas: [00:32:22] Yeah, I do. Um, I mean, it's interesting, like some of them. I live by already some, some new ones. Um, but I mean, you've just reconfirmed.
Yes. So thank you so much for sharing everything. Um, for everyone.
Tully Smyth: [00:32:35] No problem.
Jess Lucas: [00:32:37] And I hope you had a good birthday.
Tully Smyth: [00:32:39] Yeah. Look, fingers crossed fingers, crossed future tell we had a great birthday. I'm sure I will. You know what? End of the day, I think if nothing else, 2020 has all made us feel very grateful for our health and happiness.
Um, you know, the little things that I probably took for granted before I'm now so grateful for I'm grateful to even have friends to want to see. You know that I can't, and I'm grateful to have a beautiful home that I can stay indoors and celebrate with. And I'm grateful to have a lovely housemate that I get along with.
And so, yeah, I think I just feel really grateful and appreciative this year. I'm grateful to have you okay. For the podcast. I'm truly grateful that I've had this podcast to keep me going. So once again, guys, thank you so much for tuning in every week. You truly don't know how much you mean to be. In fact, if I think about it, you guys are really the best birthday present of all.
Jess Lucas: [00:33:28] guess what? Sorry, just one final thing.
Tully Smyth: [00:33:31] Um, that was really wrapping up nicely. What do you, what do you want for me?
Jess Lucas: [00:33:36] I just wanted to let you know that I think you are now coming out of your sat and returns.
Tully Smyth: [00:33:40] Yeah, I am. I am. Are you excited? I mean,
no, of course, of course. I'm excited. I'm just excited.
Jess Lucas: [00:33:51] You're on the next trajectory. This
Tully Smyth: [00:33:53] I'm excited to be alive. I'm excited to be healthy. I'm excited. That the sun is shining today. You know, there are always things to be positive about. Yeah, guys, as always, you can follow us at too much telling on Instagram, you can catch the podcast on all your favorite podcast platforms, Spotify, iTunes.
It would be the very best birthday present. If you hopped on and left us a very kind review. Otherwise I will see an excused day.