Life After Lockdown/
- November 3, 2020
Tully chats about what life was like in lockdown and the lessons she’s taking away. Tully’s followers write in about their own realisations and learnings they’ve made about themselves, and their lifestyles, in lockdown, and Tully shares how we can continue to implement these lessons in our new Covid-normal.
On today’s episode:
- Life in lockdown
- Tully’s follower’s lockdown lessons
- Becoming clearer on what we want in life
- The changes we’ll make in Covid-normal
This podcast is produced by BIG MEDIA COMPANY.
Tully Smyth: [00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to episode 16 of too much tally on today's episode. And in honor of Melbourne finally catching up to the rest of Australia. We've decided to take a pause and reflect on the lessons I've learned in lockdown. It's been a massive year for so many weed and wonderful ways. And whilst it hasn't always been easy.
In fact, it's been really fucking hard. I'd bet. My last bottle of orange one, we have all grown as humans and we think that's something worth celebrating. So we throw it to you guys to hear what you've taken away from 2020. And as per usual, you've blown us away with your insight. So we're going to share a few of those and then a few of ours, Jess, let's jump straight into it.
So just once again, we're breaking all the rules and recording. Yeah. Started on Thursday, which means that yesterday Wednesday, the 28th of November, Metro Melbourne was finally free after a whopping 112 days of stage four lockdown. What on earth did you do with your new found freedom? I haven't
Jess Lucas: [00:01:03] done anything.
What I know is
Tully Smyth: [00:01:05] the car come on. Well,
Jess Lucas: [00:01:07] I've been working today's Thursday. I had last night to do something and I didn't organize anything. So, um, I'm looking forward to the weekend to be able to go out to a cafe and catch up with a few friends as well.
Tully Smyth: [00:01:19] You didn't even like poke your head out to chapel street yesterday?
No. No. Wow. Okay. What have you been up to inversely? I've really squeezed the juice out of these first couple of hours. So I actually went to a pub, uh, for one minute past midnight. So I was there. It felt like Tuesday night, but it was like technically bursting Wednesday morning. I went to the Wolf and I in Windsor, which is one of my favorite local pubs.
And I was there for the first beer pouring and like, Oh, did a cocktail. And it was really, really nice. Obviously it's a different vibe because, um, most venues could only have a set number of people, you know, in the venues, depending on the floor space and stuff like that. Um, so it wasn't so much the pub vibe you're used to, but everyone was just so appreciative to be out.
The staff were happy to be back at work. That's smart smiles behind a mask, but you can tell they're smiling. Um, it was just a good vibe, you know, it was just really fun to have. Uh, I had a Palmer had a huge Palmer size in my head.
Jess Lucas: [00:02:14] Wait, you had a Palmer at what? 12. Or five or something at night.
Tully Smyth: [00:02:18] Good on you.
Well done. Yes. The Europeans don't even start at dinner till like 11 o'clock. Usually it's a very European things. Ate that light. Um, look, I won't lie. It might've been my second dinner. I did have dinner at six 30, knowing that I would then not eat again. I'm a Grazer. I ate a little meals and yeah, I had a Palmer.
I'm not going to be at a pub the first time in like a hundred million days and not have a pump Palmer. Right. And then. Yesterday. It was a beautiful day here in Melbourne. And I went and got my nails done. So exciting. Cause I've really missed that had a full on like deluxe many deluxe petty. I had the works, I had the paraffin wax treatment.
I literally was there for hours. It was the best thing ever. And then I'm a carwash, which is something else I haven't been able to do it. Got my car washed inside and out. So Betty, the black Mazda3 is looking sparkling new. And then I just went for a walk up and down chapel street. It was just so nice.
Seeing retail back open, seeing people outside on the street in the sun with their friends, eating at restaurants and cafes. It was just, there was such a good vibe. Like everyone was in the best mood. Um, everyone was smiling at everyone else. It was really, I literally just walked up and down. I had no real reason to be there.
I was just, just sucking it all up.
Jess Lucas: [00:03:30] Maybe I'll do that tonight. I'm going to go for a walk down chapel street,
Tully Smyth: [00:03:33] honestly. It's you don't even have to have any plans. I support myself. I had a podcast in my ears, obviously as usual and I was just walking up and down. I was just getting some sun, seeing some people I went into.
Obviously I went to Damien mix. I love going to do mix, went into do mix. Did you get a few books? No, I'm I've stopped. My point is I'm in a band because I currently have a book tower on bedside table. Um, I've booked that I haven't yet. Right or I'm until I finished that tower, I'm allowed to buy new books, but I
Jess Lucas: [00:04:01] just went in there to sniff
Tully Smyth: [00:04:02] or sniffed them.
I definitely saved them. Um, I took a big whiff, uh, I suppose Sarah Holloway Davidson's book on the shelf, which is very, very exciting. Um, I made a list of books that I want to buy, but I didn't buy any, which is the important thing.
Jess Lucas: [00:04:16] I think you need to get into Kindles. I can know you're about to think about, but it's just,
Tully Smyth: [00:04:20] it's handy.
It's handy for when you're traveling. Only, but even then, like if I'm on a beach in the sun, I don't want to, it's kind of, how do you see the screen? I don't want to hold a hot machine in my hands. I want to book, I want a book that's going to have the pages slightly curl and crinkle. When you get, you know, JIPS of the ocean on them
Jess Lucas: [00:04:37] and like sand in between the scene.
Tully Smyth: [00:04:40] Beautiful. I love everything of what black Knight lending a book to a friend. And they're like, Oh, it was really weird. Like. This boarding pass, fell out, you know, to Paris or like, you know, this receipt that was in Spanish came out. It's like, Oh, that was, that book was with me in there anyway, as usual we're waffling on.
Okay. So just before we share some of our own lockdown lessons, I thought it would be nice to hear from some of our beautiful listeners. So I pumped on the too much telling Instagram, which is obviously at too much Tully. And as per usual, I received so many amazing little pills of wisdom. Like. I really, it blows my mind.
Every time when I follow is take the time to share with us their thoughts and they put effort into it. There's that one liners. Um, and it's so insightful and they're so woke and I really enjoyed scrolling through all of them and reading them. So I've sent you some, you've picked some of your favorites.
I get some of my favorites. I'm just going to read them out. Yeah.
Jess Lucas: [00:05:32] Brilliant. Sounds good.
Tully Smyth: [00:05:32] When to stop first, the
Jess Lucas: [00:05:33] first one I've got is home cooking and wine is just as good as a night out.
Tully Smyth: [00:05:39] Hell yeah, sister. Although I cannot cook, but I totally know what you're saying with that.
Jess Lucas: [00:05:43] Maybe Uber eats in.
Tully Smyth: [00:05:45] Absolutely way to grow. Um, so I thought this is a phase, so I've got a screen of them, right? And there are three that sound very similar. Sorry. It says one says I'm resilient and adaptive as fuck. Another one says how resilient I am and how to truly listen to my mind and body. And then another one on the same page says resilience, independence, finding out who my real friends are.
I mean, I think that's something that
Jess Lucas: [00:06:06] came through quite a bit from the ones that you sent me as well. Um, I had one that says who my real friends are, or it's my friends, uh, in to say, and I never heard from them. Um, I think it's a bit sad. I think some people might not realize how hard it actually was in Melbourne and, um, what we went through and, you know, it's, it's also a mental thing.
Like just knowing that you have a curfew and knowing that you're only allowed out of your house for an hour and then to go to the supermarket a day, that is mentally really hard to deal
Tully Smyth: [00:06:33] with. Yeah. You felt, you felt really mental. You felt really trapped in the early stuff. Um, I've got one that I can definitely relate to.
I learned that I did not have the discipline to do at-home workouts, worried that I would stop them. And they'll look at the time on my album. I'd be like, Oh, 21 more minutes.
Jess Lucas: [00:06:53] No. Great. Um, I actually don't hate being alone and then I'm mostly driven to go out by FOMO. I relate to this so much because. I like going out, but I also like my alone time and I'm going to touch on it later on, but I, yeah, I'm going to start staying home a lot more.
Tully Smyth: [00:07:10] I got a similar one. It says that you don't have to do anything, be anyone or do something because otherwise yeah. And wearing busy as a badge of honor is not a good thing. Yeah. Cause it's, it's people that meta not things or possessions.
Jess Lucas: [00:07:25] Yeah. You are not going to agree with this one, but I don't need nails, but damn, I need Botox.
Tully Smyth: [00:07:31] You know what sister? I need both, any, I need both in no particular order, but I need both. Um, this one says I'm very lazy and I enjoy procrastinating. What about
Jess Lucas: [00:07:42] don't need to earn 80 K a year to survive or to be happy? I
Tully Smyth: [00:07:46] like that one.
Jess Lucas: [00:07:48] It's true. Like we've all learned to live off. Less money,
Tully Smyth: [00:07:51] literally, no money.
I've like I've lived off my money. Um, I like this one, cause it's quite poetic that even in the darkest corners, I found resilience.
Jess Lucas: [00:08:00] Vibrate is
Tully Smyth: [00:08:01] over boys. Absolute hell yes. We need to get that printed on a bloody Taisha.
Jess Lucas: [00:08:07] Now single gals haven't made on dates
Tully Smyth: [00:08:08] for a while. So mate, my vibrator collection has grown significantly.
Um, okay. That it's okay to say no to things and staying home sometimes is a good thing that I actually need spice at times and it's okay to have that. That
Jess Lucas: [00:08:21] I can live without being in control all of the time as a control freak at heart, that was really hard to deal with not having control over what I was doing and where my life was going.
Tully Smyth: [00:08:30] Yeah. And not being able to plan or like, you know, make any long-term plans. Trust the process, listen to your inner voice. Love yourself enough to start over.
Jess Lucas: [00:08:40] Nice.
Tully Smyth: [00:08:41] Yeah. That I could save so much more money than I do
Jess Lucas: [00:08:44] through traveling the shit out of the work world and not taking it for granted.
Tully Smyth: [00:08:49] That's yeah.
I'm sorry. I feel so thankful that I was in Bali in January, February this year. Like I just, you know, at the time I was like, Oh, I'm Bali again. And now I'm like, Oh my God, I would, I would give my left pinky. Would I, no, I would figure to go to Bali. Um, this one says I'm bloody good company. It's okay to take me.
Jess Lucas: [00:09:08] Yeah. Yeah. I think that's a massive thing that's come through. Um, yeah, not, uh, just looking after yourself. Um, not taking advantage of seeing your family. Oh
Tully Smyth: [00:09:18] my God. Yes. I feel that so much. Like, yeah, I'm gonna touch on that again, myself later on, but that I haven't been able to go home to see my family and Sydney has made me.
Miss them and be so much more grateful for them. Absolutely people ever places. I don't care what shit park I'm in. As long as my people are there.
Jess Lucas: [00:09:39] Yeah.
Tully Smyth: [00:09:40] This one's a bit of a long one. She sent in quite a few. So, so bear with me. I realized that we are living in one of the most privileged areas of humanity in the Western world, such as Australia.
And for many people, it may be the first time they realize how much we take, uh, rights, freedom, ability to self-actualize for granted. And most of human history, people tried to survive, uh, near the elite could focus on the top of Maslow's hierarchy, but this pandemic made people realize how lucky we are to be born in an era of advanced technology, right travel medicine.
But life can still override that and pandemics and other natural currencies, biological or environmental can threaten any spaces and ways. Humans are not immune to acts of nature, biological viruses, et cetera. We are not infallible and that is okay. We are human and I already knew life is precious, but I hope more people do also.
And that they're not so superficial.
Jess Lucas: [00:10:30] That's so nice. Telly. How do you think we can keep these conversations going? And this thinking becomes part of our norm moving forward.
Tully Smyth: [00:10:40] I mean, I'd like to think that it would happen inherently. I'd like to think that we've all changed and we all have readjust that priorities and we've figured out what really matters.
But I mean, to me, it's actually quite a scary thought to think that this will get back to normal and nothing would have been learned from this. I agree that that's, to me, that's more terrifying than anything that we just all quickly slipped back into what we've always known and don't actually take away any of these important lockdown lessons.
Jess Lucas: [00:11:06] don't think that's going to be the case. I think we honestly will. I think there's been a shift in humanity as we know it. And I honestly believe that we will, um, yeah, change the way we do things. Like I certainly am going to like, there's no way I'm going back to me. Pre COVID.
Tully Smyth: [00:11:23] Yeah, well, I mean, that's the one thing that's definitely the common theme that I saw throughout the hundreds of responses.
You know, there were, these, these words kept popping up and these phrases, and it was about being resilient. It was about taking stock, slowing down, smelling the roses, um, you know, adjusting our priorities. I think it's really locked down in 2020 in general has really forced us to boil everything down and really assess and figure out, you know, who we are at the crux of everything and what's important to us and what we will and won't stand for and what we can and can't do without.
I think that's definitely something that I personally have really noticed. And at first I think that you kind of, well, I definitely kind of felt it. You know, I, I really kind of hoped and assumed that this would all be over very quickly. I thought, Oh, okay. Hmm. Couple of weeks. Oh, and that's all right.
That's okay. This is fun. This is like, we're all having a snow day. And then the snow, not the weird, we have snow days here in Australia and then the snow day just kept going and going and going and going and going. And yeah, it forced all of us, you know, for those of us that were living, maybe with our heads in the sand, quite happily, I think it forced all of us to, uh, take a good hard look at ourselves.
So just what have you, so you've written it down some of your biggest lockdown lessons talk us through them. Um, so the first
Jess Lucas: [00:12:42] thing that I've heard jotted down is, um, that I'm now so clear on where I'm heading, um, You know, at the beginning of this year, I was planning to travel as, you know, quit. My job was going to travel, um, quite extensively.
Um, and I think what I've realized is that that was maybe a band-aid fix for what I was going through. Um, you know, it's still something that I, I'm going to try a crave as soon as, you know, borders open up and that kind of stuff, and I'm going to want to do again. But I think what I was trying to do was escape.
Um, and I think now I've realized that, um, if I could live by the beach and if I could have my own with her, um, you know, within the next six months or so I think that I will just be the happiest girl in the world. And then, you know, if, if a guy comes along as well and, and I could set that up. That'd be
Tully Smyth: [00:13:30] yeah.
Jess Lucas: [00:13:32] and added bonus, but yeah, I think, I wouldn't know myself, but yeah. Live by the beach or in a dog. I'm really happy with my career at the moment, working with you. Um, and the guy. So I think that would just be the cherry on top
Tully Smyth: [00:13:45] and also like travel was going to be there. Like, I feel like you've now done it in the right order.
Do you want, I mean, cause you've you've you figured out who you are, you figured out what you want. You're happy and content where you are in your life here in Melbourne, which is your home. We can always hop on a plane. We can still go and travel the world. Like we could still go check out Japan and she got grace, maybe not for a couple more months, years is we don't know.
Um, but at least, you know, you know that you're happy in your own world here. And I think that's, what's really important.
Jess Lucas: [00:14:15] Uh, the second thing that I have discovered about myself is that, I mean, I feel like I already knew this. I just didn't do it, but. Spending more time at home. Yes. I'm very keen to get out right now.
I'm really keen to go out and see my friends and family go to bars and that kind of stuff. But I think once we have gotten that out of our system and we can go back to normal, um, I liked the balance of spending more time at home. I was always, you know, waking up super early, going to the gym, then getting to work early, then, you know, working like.
Eating a shitty dinner going to bed. Um, you know, I was never really focused on myself, so, um, I really want to prioritize myself and my mental health before I suppose my career in anything, anyone else? Um, I think, yeah, working those long hours, um, trying to fit it all in was just too hard. Um, so yeah, I just, no one, no longer wants to stress myself out over things that I, uh, what am I trying to say here?
Tully Smyth: [00:15:10] Like burn the candle at both ends,
Jess Lucas: [00:15:12] correct? Yeah. Cause I would always come second, but now I'm going to put myself first
Tully Smyth: [00:15:17] good on you. Yes, girlfriend,
Jess Lucas: [00:15:21] do you want to tell us one of yours and then I can get,
Tully Smyth: [00:15:24] yeah, sure. Um, I mean, again, you know, as is the case with us often, um, we've got to got similar, but also very different lessons.
And again guys, we just, I always go away and comp this stuff on our own. Um, so I'm not sure what this is going to talk about and vice versa. So I realized being the social butterfly that I am, that I would book myself out. It dinners and drinks and lunch dates and parties and events, so that I was so busy, so drunk or so distracted that I didn't have time to realize how MTI felt, how unfulfilled professionally.
And this is obviously pray podcast because this is honestly been life-changing for me and, and really has given me a purpose. And I think having a purpose in life is so important and that's something that your career, um, can really help with. Um, but also personally, and it's not that I need a relationship.
I don't, I've been happy on my own, super independent for so long now. Um, or a family. I don't need a family. I don't need to have a baby, but it's something that I really desperately want and I'm ready for. And I think I'm probably ready as ready as I'll ever be now off of 20, 20 than I was before. I mean, I probably thought I was ready for it before, but I think that these, she I've, yeah, I've grown so much this year.
Jess Lucas: [00:16:37] maybe not going to events as much. Um, does it make you feel as though, like, do you want to keep going to heaps of events? Like you do enjoy them, but maybe not so many, but
Tully Smyth: [00:16:48] I was, you know, I was so many, like, I would never say no to anything and not because I was desperate for it. Well, no, actually I guess it was it wasn't because this is the thing I think sometimes.
You know, with my other friends and stuff with these events, they say yes to big the big ones, the big on social calendar, you know, like Portsea polo. But I was saying yes to nearly every single event because I had nothing better to be doing with my time. You know, I didn't have a partner to be sitting at home and making dinner with, so why not go out Tuesday, Thursday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
Why not? Um, and I thought I was happy, but I think taking that away from me, I realized that I wasn't happy. And whilst events are great and fun part of my job. Um, I think it's important to keep them as just that as a part of my life. Yeah.
Jess Lucas: [00:17:38] So what are you going to take away? Like how are you going to set boundaries, you know, only accepting one a week or,
Tully Smyth: [00:17:45] um, no, I don't think I need to do that.
I don't think I need to give myself roles with guidelines. Um, I think just the fact that I've had that epiphany and I've had that realization, um, I now won't feel so inclined to say yes to absolutely everything it lands in my inbox.
Jess Lucas: [00:17:56] Yeah. Fair enough.
Tully Smyth: [00:17:58] Um, I guess, touching on that and in that same kind of realm, uh, that's something I also realized pretty early on, in locked down was that I use alcohol as a crutch and I don't need it.
I thought that drinking and alcohol general might be funnier. I thought that it made me the life of the party. Um, and in fact, I actually really don't like drunk, Tali. I think she's a fucking idiot. Uh, she's noxious. She starts fright to people. She loves for absolutely no reason because she feels vulnerable or hurt.
Um, and I don't like that about her. She makes terrible decisions that are always self-sabotaging. And I think that was probably the best part about dating during lockdown. Um, especially with the FaceTime dates and the sober walking dates is that I couldn't hide behind alcohol and I was actually a much better date.
Jess Lucas: [00:18:51] hiding behind a mask.
Tully Smyth: [00:18:52] Yeah. And it's tough because you know, drinking is such a huge part of my job. It, with all those events that I just said, I go to there's, there's rarely a cyber event, even the breakfast ones, even the morning yoga sessions, the whole few mimosa. Um, and so it's, it's become such an ingrained part of my job and therefore who I am.
And I think being the single girl at these events, I was often almost treated as the court jester, like I was treated as, at the end of time. And I'd have a gaggle of people around me in a semicircle asking for the latest, funny story or asking for the latest dating disaster and I would drink and I would perform and everyone would laugh and clap and I'd feel validated.
And then they'd all go home to their partners and I'd be. I'd be left, standing there, a lawyer, you know, drunk and alone and lonely. So yeah, that's something that I am. What is that? I actually I'm actually, not only am I just as cool sober, I'm actually even better. I love that. You're just
Jess Lucas: [00:20:01] saying as you're crying.
Um, well, no, this is what I was going to say is that I realized that before lockdown all my life, I compress my emotions. So I never really cry. Um, I often suppress them, um, and just get on with things. Um, I actually find it
Tully Smyth: [00:20:22] difficult to cry. Like
Jess Lucas: [00:20:23] I know that's weird to say, but physically I find it difficult to cry, but lockdown has made me more than makeup for all of that.
There is misuse of crying. Um, I've never cried more in my life. So, um, Probably not since I was an infant, maybe my God.
Tully Smyth: [00:20:41] Um, as my good friend, Lainey always tells me, um, crying is good because crying is energy in motion.
Jess Lucas: [00:20:47] Yeah. And I think I've learned that like, once you purge that emotion and you feel it it's Eddie system, I feel like I did hold a lot in, I dunno, where
Tully Smyth: [00:20:58] it gets heavy.
Right? Like it starts to weigh you down physically. Yeah.
Jess Lucas: [00:21:02] So I think that's, that's something that I, yeah. Moving forward with. If I want to cry or if I can cry, like just let it out, like try and get on with things or, you know, feel it. Absolutely.
Tully Smyth: [00:21:12] And if you haven't had a crying buddy, I mean, you know who to call, hold point, watching you on big brother
Jess Lucas: [00:21:18] going, crying all the time.
Tully Smyth: [00:21:22] Yep. Which is what I'm known for. I'm known for being the crying girl that just cried every day. It is
Jess Lucas: [00:21:26] good. You're getting it out.
Tully Smyth: [00:21:28] Do you know what I've always I've said, I've always said that about myself. Like at least, you know, what's going on. Right? Like, like how I feel is written all over my face. Um, but at least, you know, what you signed up for it's people like you, that, that scared the shit out of me.
I'm like, why is she occasionally angry? She's sad. What's going on? I don't know. I can't read a, that to me is a little terrifying and maybe like me. Okay. So probably the biggest, uh, lockdown lesson that I learned. And I'm probably going to cry again in this one. So apologies in advance because, um, yeah, this was quite a, a big light bulb moment for me during lockdown.
Um, so I realized that after seven or so years of living the high life in quotation marks, as people, you know, assume that it is, and it is bright, there are so many perks, but after seven or so years of living the high life as an influencer attending all the coolest parties. Being flown all around the world for festivals, Centre, fancy resorts in tropical locations, I realized that it truly doesn't mean anything.
It means literally nothing at all. I have nothing to show for any of it, really nothing of worth. Anyway, the followers, the possessions, the money. That doesn't mean anything being away from friends and family in Sydney for basically the entirety of 2020. Missing out on some of my closest friends getting engaged after like 10 years of being together on my bestest friend in the entire world, struggling with IVF and not being able to be there for her has absolutely shattered me.
That's the stuff that matters. That's all that I care about. And that's all that I want to be around full and on throw the rest of the sparkly shit away to be there for those moments in a heartbeat. And I want him to get those priorities mixed up again.
Jess Lucas: [00:23:17] This, isn't your way of telling me that you may come back to see
Tully Smyth: [00:23:19] me, but I just realized, like, there've been so many times when I've had to choose between my friends and family or my real life and my Instagram life, you know, like even just as this lockdown was happening literally the day or days before he was my best friends who face 30th up in Sydney.
She's like my everything. And she'd send out like a Facebook invite so long before. And I said, yes, of course it would be that like, I don't care what it is or where we're going or whatever. Of course we'll be there. I booked the flights, you know, immediately. And then I got booked on this really big job with Boohoo.
I was really excited about huge campaign in Maricia. I mean, it's Maricia so if you Googled that place, like it's literally, it's stuff of dreams. It's on my Pinterest board. I like. It's just someone that I'd never, you know, it's one of those places where I just know in my heart that I would never have got to go there on my own, you know, my own back.
And it was, you know, it was a couple of days in malicious shooting for Boohoo, which is obviously a huge global company with, with like five other influences that I looked up to and loved, including Abby Chatfield. It was, it was jumping a lifetime. Um, but it was over that weekend. And, and I didn't even think twice about taking the job.
Yeah, no, no, no. The world shut down anyway. I didn't get to go to either place, but, um, I just, I don't know. That's kind of been sitting with me heavy in my chest and I just want to make sure moving forward that my friends and family, I know how much they mean to me and know how important they are to me, but also that they feel that.
Jess Lucas: [00:25:00] I think you're a very, very loyal friend and family member. So I know that they would know that about you. I think it was your job. And that is the beauty of what has come out of COVID in that we have learned what is most important to us and what we're going to do moving forward. So as long as we have that lens over what, where our future selves will do, that's okay.
You still need to make money. You still need to go on these trips and do these, um, these jobs and stuff. That's also part of your identity. So I think that, yeah, tough decision, but, um, at least now you can say, I can't do this one, but I will make up for it in another area because you know, what's important to you.
Tully Smyth: [00:25:40] Yep. No, you're right. I just, I it's just crazy how, like, you know, it takes one thing. I think also it's just getting older, you know, suddenly now my friends are getting married, they are having kids and it's like, What matters most to me in the world and it's stuff like that. I want to be around for that. I want to, yeah.
I want to be around for, for engagements and for weddings and for the birth of my friend's children. That's what matters to me most. And, and that is definitely something that 2020 has told me, like the parties, the movie premiers that none of that matters. Yeah.
Jess Lucas: [00:26:10] Yeah. I think three of my girlfriends have had babies and locked down.
Haven't met any of them. It's my dad's 60th is Sunday and I'm shattered that I can't. Go back and can't celebrate with him. I mean,
Tully Smyth: [00:26:21] so it's so annoying. Cause it's so close to that magical date we've been given November night. Like you could all like, Oh, that's so annoying. We've got
Jess Lucas: [00:26:28] a 21st and the team I turned 30, like I'm a massive party, like party person.
Like I wish I had a massive 30th with all of my girlfriends and
Tully Smyth: [00:26:38] shit we can make up for that. Like I am the best potty planet you'll ever ma like my RCD really comes into its own when I have to plan an event. Surely we can throw you a
Jess Lucas: [00:26:50] plan. I think.
Tully Smyth: [00:26:51] Well, belated video. Yeah.
Jess Lucas: [00:26:55] We'll say, but, um, yeah, it's been a big year around and we've all missed out on a lot of things that we all wanted to do, but I think we have to go through the tough times to, to really understand what a is worth it.
And B what? Um, yeah,
Tully Smyth: [00:27:09] but also because yeah, you're right with. Everyone, everyone in the entire world has missed out on big milestones. And I know that I'm not alone in missing out on things. And you know, I've got friends who have had to postpone their wedding, not once, but twice. You know, I've got friends that have, um, their parents have passed away and they weren't there cause they're interstate like that stuff.
You know, I feel really lucky that I haven't had to experience any of that stuff, but what we do all have and what, you know, we cannot be appreciative of unlucky and feel lucky and blessed about is it, we've all got our health. And yes, we've missed out on milestones and yes, we've missed out on parties and we've had, we've had really crappy, you know, locked down birthdays, but if you are healthy, if you have your health, then I think we all have something to be very, very grateful for.
And. And that's something else. I think we should all take away from 2020.
Jess Lucas: [00:27:58] Yeah. And new perspective on life.
Tully Smyth: [00:28:01] Guys. This has been a surprisingly emotional episode. Um, but I think it's good sometimes to stop in and really, um, reflect and take notes and take a look at how far we've come. And just as a side note to all our Victoria and Melbourne listeners, um, Good on you.
Like I'm so proud of us. We've really stuck together. Um, and we made it, we did it and we're out. And if you happen to see me out and about and shoveled straight this weekend, please come up to me and say, hi, um, I'll buy you a drink. If you listen to the show, uh, if you guys have loved the show, we would love.
If you would leave us a positive review. Um, you can catch the podcast wherever you listen to your podcasts. You can catch us on Instagram at too much Tali. And as always, I will see you next Tuesday.