Dating & Daddy Issues with Violet Benson/
- September 17, 2020
Tully is joined by comedian and meme Queen, Violet Benson, AKA Daddy Issues, to chat about fulfillment in life, online criticism, dating and being worthy of love, moving in with Too Hot To Handle’s Francesca Farago, and being comfortable in your own skin.
On today’s show:
- Why Violet started Daddy Issues
- Fulfilment, criticism and negativity
- Dating, apps and being worthy of love
- Moving in with Francesca Farago
- Accomplishments and dream podcast guests
- Being comfortable in your own skin
Violet on Instagram: @violetbenson
Daddy Issues on Instagram: @daddyissues_
Too Tired To Be Crazy on Instagram: @tootiredtobecrazy
This podcast is produced by BIG MEDIA COMPANY.
Hello and welcome to episode nine of too much tally today is a very exciting day. We have comedian mean Queen and absolute Boss Lady violet Benson, aka daddy issues on the show. file. It has their own podcast too tired to be crazy, where she promotes female empowerment and self love advice, Jess and I absolutely love her and love her content. So we decided we absolutely must get her on the show. Jess, how are you feeling about it?
I'm so excited. I followed her for years. So just to have her on our screens. It's gonna be hilarious. How is your week been? It's been good. I have done a little bit of online shopping so I've had a few deliveries this week.
That's the best thing about lockdown I reckon.
I know and I'm sorry if my my doorbell rings because I feel like I'm gonna get one this morning.
What have you bought Give me your top purchase.
There was a warehouse sale for in a pally and yeah, I got it's really excessive. I've got two leather jackets.
Okay, so my favourite leather jackets from an appellee they do the absolute best leather jackets, that was an investment pace. So I'm not going to hold that against you. Thank you. Thank you. Um, tell me, how is the dating going? It's going well, obviously, we haven't been able to meet up yet because of lock down stage four. But the chats are really good. We're having like, I found someone that actually talks as much as I do via text. We just send these sad like messages one after the other. But he has quite an important job at the moment. He's a paramedic. Really? Yeah. So he's obviously very busy. During, you know, a global pandemic. Yes. Um, it's quite interesting for me to be dating or not dating, I guess talking to somebody from a totally different world to me. I think most of the guys I've seen in the past especially the last couple years have either been, you know, influences on models or Yeah, but you know, owned bars and so it's it's very different for me, but I'm trying not to run away I'm trying to lean in. But he's Yeah, he's really sweet. He's a good egg.
So I want to get to know him a little bit more. Can you tell me the top three facts you know about him?
Okay, so he's from he's of Adelaide originally. He's a nurse. He's a North sider which is so off brand for me to cross the river, but we're rolling with it. And he's a vegetarian, which I've vowed off to Talia. I'd never done a vegetarian I vowed, but um,
yes. So normal Sunday night rice for you then.
Well, I mean, I can slap some night rice we can do like a roast pumpkin for me or something.
Yeah, there's always good vegetables with the rice so that's okay. He can
have decides what if what even constitutes a vegetarian roast. What do you do with some colleagues of tofu or something? Yeah, that doesn't sound that appealing to me at all. All right, just top up that drink of yours. I've got a full one. And let's get violet Benson on the show. Violet Benson all the way from LA Welcome to too much Tali, thank you so much for joining us. Hi, of course. Thank you so much for Me. You look super cute. I'm loving the tie dye.
love it. Yeah, each week Jess and I've been kicking off the episode with a bit of a battery check in to see how I both feeling. I want to know how you're feeling. How are you going today? What battery percentage do you um,
I feel like I'm on 20% because it has such a long day, but I just took an Adderall which I'm prescribed to some hoping it helps me go back at least 50% because I have so much more to do today. But I am so excited to to still be on this podcast. And you guys have to wait for me for a little because I was in traffic but thank you.
I honestly don't even stress I I've been to a lie quite a few times. And I LA traffic is a real thing. Like that's a serious issue. So when you said you were fake, I was like, she'll be a while like we should just talk amongst ourselves.
Yeah, but we were before the podcast started. We were just talking about our zodiac signs. And you said that you were a Libra and I'm a Scorpio and then you say your Venus. Why am I doing the interview I'm
gonna do it, do it. No keep going because I love to do my Shakeology. Jess is also very much into astrology and I was
discussing what's your sign? I'm a cancer. Cancer thrown through hardshell soft interior.
Yeah, so I feel like I'm a Scorpio but my Mercury's in Scorpio, which is also how we communicate. But then the rest of my signs, I mean, my the way I get angry and have sex is Aries and then the rest of my signs are air and fire and I feel like that's why sometimes people tell me that I don't really act like a Scorpio and I love like a Libra too. So I feel like it's kind of shallow love sometimes
I always thought that was typical labour and I did my birth chart and I've got Venus, Pluto and Mercury all in Scorpio. So I actually have a lot more Scorpio placements and I have Libra placements which actually makes a lot of sense if you knew me because I'm like sassy as fuck, and and Libras are usually more like placid and balance and Libras can be sassy to believers or just like non confrontation I'm but I'm at Jess and my confrontational like I don't want to I don't mind a fight. I'm ready to go at all times at all times. And violent we are SAS with your Instagram. Keep thinking you start by telling us why you started daddy issues. How did that all come about?
So the way sorry daddy issues basically I used to be an accountant before I did this and I was just like, I really wanted to be the best. Like I wanted to be a partner but unfortunately that just sign the stars for me. And I feel like I feel like regardless where you do in life, like if you're meant to do something, that the universe always guides you there. Absolutely. So I feel like so so sometimes if you go through hardships, you're meant to go through them in order to come out of it stronger and with something better. So I think that's kind of what ended up happening to me like I really want to be an accountant just to prove my dad like that. I'm just as smart as my sister who was an attorney and we all have secondary degrees. My family walks up to me technically now because I didn't finish my CPA exams. But um, yeah, it just didn't work out that way. Because uh, when might We're just making my life super miserable and it got to the point I was just like crying in my car every morning before work but I just saw like that was part of the American dream and and i lo background into that is because me and my family we're all immigrants I come from Russia and from Israel so like, you know, I saw like, that's what we just believe like the American Dream is having that nine to five and you're miserable, but that's like that's that's being a grown up like, you know, so every morning I would just cry before I walk into work and these women are just making my life a living hell and I am not even that type of person has a victim mentality in any situation. So it is It was really hard for me to even admit the fact that they were like breaking me down and I had such a need to be likeable hands my daddy my daddy issues also the fact that now a creator so make sense I'm in this field, but like I just no matter what I did it, they just wasn't enough. They didn't like me. And it got to the point that I just got lost in with who I am and when my depression and it was like the lowest point of my life and that's when I created it. Daddy issues as an escape for me. So had nothing to do with being famous. There's just an escape and I put like all my thoughts and effort into this, like obsession with the Instagram. So like, every night when I finished work, I was just like, get on this Instagram and I would try to like, make it grow and I would post memes and I would see like what people thought and it was just a whole thing of like, not focusing my looks or focusing my personality. So I've always said that the way I created daddy issues like the people really created me, because I was so lost and the way I looked at daddy issues, there's like this really cool girl who was my alter ego, and I wish I could be as confident as her because like, I didn't even know who I was. And the more I get posting and the more people felt like they could relate to her. The more I started to understand like my identity and the more I like started to become daddy issues to the point that one day I was like, Oh, I am daddy issues now. And now like as as years have gone by, and I've grown more as a person and like even with my new my podcasts too tired to be crazy. Like I feel like I've surpassed her again, like I've outgrown her because I'm more mature. than her so now she's become my alter ego again. So it's really cool has gone like full circle like it's really cool that meme pages changed my whole life
what made because originally you had your identity was concealed and you kind of like a secret squirrel Gossip Girl so so what made you kind of come out and own up to the page and say that it was yours and this is who I am.
What? Well, I became really proud of it. Plus, I was making a lot of my own means and I was known for my captions, which I still am known for my captions on my name so like, it became my baby. And first it was fun to be anonymous after a while but when i when i got my confidence back and I was like this confident daddy issues. It got kind of, I just felt like the best thing I can do is to attach my face to my brand. And I think it was a really smart decision because I think now because names have become so saturated, like I'm one of the big accounts even though I've been doing the meme account, way for way less time than any of the other Oh gee meme accounts. I think like now if I Attach my face me Macau nobody will care for like, luckily back then people didn't care. So it was like the right time it
wasn't nerve wracking. Like how was that first announcement? How did you announce that was that I would have been terrified.
It was nerve racking and it's so funny like looking back now what made me sad like, it's so laughable and so shallow. Like when I finally showed my face, I did an interview with MTV. And when I finally showed my face the the biggest criticism that I was getting was, I thought, she's too pretty, like I thought she would be ugly and fatter. And I kid you not. I was crying over that, and like thinking about it back now. I'm like, thank you guys so much. Being so free, like,
do you think that you would go down the same path had you stayed in Russia?
Well, I grew up in Israel. I was born in Russia, but um, I don't know. Like, I'm not sure because like I said, I think maybe I wouldn't have been famous, but I think the same field that I'm currently in I would have gone there because right now I'm still pivoting into what I meant to be like when my when I start to get a following a daddy issues. It wasn't like FBI I'm famous, I'm gonna be rich, it was more like, oh, wow, okay, I'm starting to get a platform. And so this is my chance, like make a difference in the world like how can I? What can I do to make these people feel something like that's always been kind of who I am. So I like knew that if I have a voice if I got lucky enough to have a voice out of millions of people that I need to do something with it, so yes, like I do, like, I do make all these like jokes and all the means and stuff like that, but it did help a lot of people. And now when sex has become so saturated it you know, suddenly I'm just like, Okay, how can I continue to use my voice and that's where like, I created something my podcasts like two or three crazy where it's more about like self love and self healing because I'm like, oh, people, I'm depressed now more than ever because of social media. Yeah. So I think whenever I continue, so I think that's my path is to make a difference in the way that help helps people love themselves. So maybe in Israel, if I stayed in Israel and Russia, I wouldn't have become Famous but maybe I would have went down the path of being the therapist or something like that. Because helping people is like my goal like I want to do TED talks in when I'm older like that I want to like visit schools and help people talk about their self esteem. Like, that's more important to me, then, you know how many followers I
have? It's so funny. Like, you've literally take the words out of my mouth. I've always said that about my following. I think that I've always said, but I said at first you did. And you said it better than me. But I've always said that I want to I want to use it for good instead of evil. You also have like, gazillion will follow as me. You know, my thing has always been if I make one person feel less alone, that my job's done, and I'm happy to share all my trauma, all my breakups, you know, all my all my issues, I'm happy to share but all that on the table and be really vulnerable, which is obviously terrifying. If it just makes one person feel less alone, so I totally get what you mean when you talk about that. And how is your childhood impacted you? Do you think? Yeah, that's a good question.
I guess I haven't really weirdly haven't Fully thought about the how has my childhood impacted me because I feel like in some ways, I feel like it held me back from being the person that I am today because it took me like years to overcome, like certain, like, detachments styles that I've had and things like that, and I wish but then again, I feel like if I talk to a therapist and the therapist will say, you can't blame your child, so blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,
give it a whirl. Like, it all adds up, doesn't it? Like it'll come from somewhere? We didn't just wake up, wake up one day like, it's funny as you get older, you really and you do more work in yourself and I think you start to sort of piece the puzzle together. Yeah. Okay. All right. Okay, so that's
what I think having, having bad experiences or not the best childhood or whatever it is, I think it does form who you are today. So I literally, I'm able to be the person that I am today and be so much deeper my thoughts and be so intuitive to other people's emotions and care to understand people Because, and show people up because I didn't grow up with that type of love. So I feel like for me, it droughts for the better. So I think as long as as you take your experiences and you say like okay, how can I grow from it, then you're going to have the best experience and when you're older, I think it's the people that look at their past experiences across trauma and they hold on to them and they don't want to heal from them and they constantly use that as their shield and be like, well this is why I'm like this so like it just because this is who he used to be doesn't mean you can grow from him become a better person.
So like, I wholeheartedly agree with you on that one. What about what makes you feel most fulfilled?
I think right now it can be the podcast, but I think it's also like, helping people at work. Okay, a few things. One, I feel really fulfilled. Like recently I finally went to Utah for the first wave for the first time but like I would like left my house for the first time. And I felt I get I have these moments where I just like appreciate everything around me. So I was like looking at like How beautiful Utah like. Yeah, to be with my, with people who I enjoy to be around. And suddenly I was I feel like I was in tears because like one was like that I, because a lot of times I just always want more and more. And I don't really have moments where I stop for a second and be like,
smell the roses. Yeah, yeah. And you
just appreciate the moment you're in. So I feel like moments like that make me feel very fulfilled, where I'm like, wow, like, this is my life, I have moments where I really appreciate my life, I feel very fulfilled, and that also moments where I'm at my lowest, and then I pray to God, and I thank him for like my life so that it like changes my point of view, and I feel fulfilled after that. And then the last one is I feel very fulfilled when I get to give back where it's like, I create something that I'm really that I'm really proud of myself. For example, I was really scared of doing a solo episode for my podcast. And because it's been a while and I just thought I was gonna suck and then whatever recorded I wasn't like happy with it. But then afterwards I really listened to it and I edit it and when I posted it the feedback like so many girls listened to it. It was it's called dub bitch boot camp. And like, and like so I felt very fulfilled in that moment I was able to create something but like also put a lot of thought into it. Like I do a lot of research before I release episodes like when I talk about a topic, but that made me feel really fulfilled.
I think it's crazy. Like I obviously I've only just started You are the master and I am but the, you know, the young grasshopper, but I was just saying before offline, I didn't realise my side of the podcast I've been doing influencing for a while and obviously we're going to share like Big Brother I opened my whole life up to camera 24 seven, but I didn't realise just how much just how draining and terrifying was going to be sharing so much of myself on the show. And every Tuesday when the episode drops that morning is so anxiety ridden for me like I wake up really, really early. When I wake up. I've already got a few DMS from people that have already listened to it and I just the whole day um spent just kind of, you know, on tenterhooks just wondering, you know, are they going to receive it? Is it going to be? Are they going to like it to people? Are people going to resonate with it? And it's those messages you get, and I'm sure you get a trillion of them. The DMS from many young women for me, I'm sure the same for you. And they're like, you know, this isn't me this thank you so much this episode, you know, you don't understand I've had this kind of a week or this has been happening to me, but this is me filter, and I'm just like, I finally feel like, Okay, this is where I'm supposed to be. This is why I keep doing it. This is why, you know, I, I'm fine with these anxious mornings, because if these people are enjoying it, and if it makes them feel less alone, or, you know, then I'm happy to keep going. And that's kind of what makes me feel fulfilled as well.
That's really good. But you also have to be proud of what you relate to what you do in general before, like waiting for the validation, because that can be also your biggest demise.
Oh, for sure. I'm proud of it, but it's just I'm proud of my work, but then it's just like is everyone else gonna be As
down, then I'm kidding.
totally kidding. I mean, trust me, I've also released an episode that bombed real bad. And I was like, Okay, I'm just gonna go and pretend it never happened. And
we'll see that is really important. And I think it's also important for like, podcasters other people in general to like, if it's if it's feedback, and I like if it's constructive criticism versus when people are just being mean, there's a daddy
deal with that because I think just because of the nature of bit of background for you, so I went into the big brother house with a girlfriend of two years, and I came out with a boyfriend. So I've always been controversial and as always been, the Australian public and media have always had differing opinions on who I am as a person and I've copped trolling and stuff like that my whole life since I did the show, and that's totally fine. I understand. I fucked up big time, and I'll cop it. But I feel like because of that, no matter what I do, there's always this sort of small minority that just want to fucking hate me for no reason. My the apple podcast reviews of my podcast can be a pretty fucking terrible How do you deal with that shit?
I really does hurt my feelings yeah right
fuck your heart and soul into something you literally pull your heart out you spend all this time doing it use it all the time researching you feel like you put a little bit of yourself into this episode and then these fucking Karen's you know just sit there and rip it to shreds and I'm not told just by producer I'm like I can't read them anymore. But like how do you deal with you know negativity and like negative review?
Well, I feel like a lot of times take it with a grain of salt but sometimes I have moments I listen like for example, for my dumb bitch bootcamp episode, I like recorded myself on the phone with like, because it was an audio episode and I didn't my camera. My camera like the battery was out while I was filming the episodes actually couldn't film finish filming videos. So then when I wanted to promote the episode, I had to refill myself. Like saying the same stuff on a My iPhone in order to post it. So, um, English was also my third language and I mean, not to make excuses, but English is my third language and I'm dyslexic,
multiple degrees. You moulted like bilingual, I think. I mean, I stop making like, you're great. You're doing fucking fantastic.
No. So like, anyway, when I do solo episodes actually have the notes here and when someone I do solo episodes because I do so much research, like it's hours of research where I listen to TED Talks, I read different books, and I listen to like, different videos and things like that in order to know how to actually give like real advice on a topic. So like, there's always like, full on notes, like it's like, and I read through them because it helps me better understand like how to put everything in my brain because again, like when I think I think in a different language, so when I speak I translate it into English. And so anyway, the point is that there was this one part from the podcast that I was like, this is going to be the part that I'm going to promote that episode and I recorded myself on it. Phone, but then I had like I need like moments where I look down like I want to try to find an example of what it is.
I'm like obsessed with you right now. I'm like totally crushing on you the cute What? Like, what can't you do?
Um, I can't do the walk down semi. I haven't tried.
I don't think I can
show you my knees right now. Like I am battered and bruised from learning that it's not good. It's like watching one of those inflatable men at the car, the car itself. It's like what to one of those dads? It's not hot. It's not sexy in the slightest. All these creepy dudes on my Instagram like show us like what do you got up to? It might not fuck off
the wall. It was just like, I feel like once you hit 30 you're just like, legally shouldn't be allowed to do it. Like you should. Yeah, right. Like I was like, I would do about I don't want to get arrested. But anyway, so it's like, it's literally I was like reading and it's a whole like super heartfelt to this pyre just like I mean, I just read a small part of it. I was like, okay, people think people think that the hardest part by day is finding someone but actually the hardest part about dating is fine is finally letting go of the wrong people. We tend to be so stubborn that we hold on to things for a little too long trying to fix what's already broken. So are you tired of choosing people that don't choose you? And then I look down. I'm like, Why do you keep fighting for people that treat you like you're an option? It's like a full inspiration. A lot of people got it as firing, but some people were like, it's the looking down for me. And like, literally, it's like super inspirational and that the ending? Did they
want you to memorise every single line? What were they expecting? It's,
by the way, it's over a minute, but this is from an hour podcast. And then in the end, it's like when you finally realise you're more than enough for yourself, you'll never have to worry about being enough for someone else. The truth is, if you love yourself so passionately, as much as you love the idea of a man's validation, you'd be unstoppable. So, I don't know who needs to hear this right now, but repeat after me. I owe myself a huge apology for putting up with people who took advantage of me for putting up with people who didn't deserve me just because I want it to be a Loved, I'll take a deep breath and breathe out and forgive yourself for not knowing any better. And then it's like, it's like other thing, but anyway,
those like, fucking amazing.
I even like felt from it. But instead people are like it's looking down for me or it's the reading from it's a reading from notes for me because maybe they thought I didn't write it. So first I got annoyed and I was like, English is my third language. And I was like, it's I'm like, if anything, it means I'm putting extra effort into my podcast because I'm writing this down. So like, I can be precise for you guys. And then I saw like, it wasn't only one comment, it was like a good amount of comments saying that even though most of it like 80% of it was positive feedback. But I took that in and I was like, Okay being you know what? I know you're so proud of your words. I know so proud of what you release, but people are actually if it's more than one person, this points like 10 people giving that feedback even more this point, like, you have to take it in. So then I said, Okay, what you know what? You're right. I should have not looked down in my notes. There somebody was like you know cuz some people offered like you can there's like a thing on your iPhone that you can download where it's a you can read it off of your phone like a teleprompter. Yeah, you're you're a fucking one woman show like this isn't a production No, but I understood because the fact that distracted those people and then his feedbacks, instead of fighting it, I took it in, I let my ego aside, put my ego aside, I said, You're right. I should have I should have recorded it better for next time. Maybe I when I say align, I'll keep looking down. Then when I look down. I take that part out and I look back up and actually the next video I recorded for this episode. I remember oh my god that time and I didn't know it's also over a minute, but guess what, if when I want it to look down, I cut that out because that was a feedback. What feedback that I get this time it's her head looking like an egg for me. Oh, okay. I can't. There's nothing I could do about that one.
Wow. Okay, if what is one thing that nobody knows about you?
What a great interview question.
The you on the spot? I was thinking what I would
I don't know. I feel like maybe people don't realise about me. So a I'm gonna count in the I've two degrees in business law and accounting. I Graduate University at 20. So three years instead of four. I speak three languages, but I used to speak also fluent Arabic and French, but I forgot. I'm deaf in my left ear because I'm dyslexic.
Hang on, how does that how does how do those two things?
A lot of dyslexic people are prone to hearing issues.
Yes, I am really good at math. I used to tutor math. I'm still really great at math. I love math. Um, what else do people don't know about me? Except that I mean, oh, we won the Green Card Lottery. That's another thing that life people seem not to know.
So that's how your family migrated? Yes. So the US. I mean, they're pretty good facts. My mom is going to be that I am. I used to do fencing as a sport in high school.
That's really cool.
Now, this is before I can Gotta make it sexy, isn't it? It was like not a cool thing to do. And I loved it. And I was very good at it because I'm very tall and lanky, but I went to some, like state competition and got headlights from sharing helmets. And that was it for me. I was like, Nope, not doing that ever again.
Yeah, that's so funny. I played softball for the first semester and then the American school and I was like the worst on the team. And then like every Friday It was a death day quote unquote, because it was the training was like when you do the crazy like you run five miles and all that and every day I had a doctor's note that I can't run
pro but I always just I just fired up my doctors. No, I just say tell he has a headache or tell he had a migraine. I'll tell he has asthma today.
I hate it. Oh, yeah, he Miko just had it with me. She was beside from me also being the worst on the team. So then I joined dance team.
So violet, one of the main reasons we wanted to get you on the show is because we felt that there was quite a few synergies. Between the content that you put out and some of the stuff that we chat about on the show, particularly dating. So we're wearing locked down here in Melbourne, one of the strictest lockdowns because of COVID around the world at the moment. We want to know how you're dating and if so, is there restrictions still over there? You know, how do you go about you dating?
Well, I'm in LA, California is the ones like I think the one state that they're saying has the biggest the largest cases of COVID so we're always number one.
Really proud of that for us.
Love that for you.
So we're not I wouldn't say I'm really dating because of COVID. But at this point, I mean, I'm not gonna lie. It seems like people can be kind of over it sometimes. And so it's when I have tried to date like right now I'm not dating anyone but when I have tried to date during COVID it's been like first like texting and then FaceTime but it is discouraging because you kind of like Oh would you do today? What the fuck do you think I did today was home like what do you think? The
chat is so dry like I'm over this like how am I so yeah, same as yesterday. Hey,
but I did I was dating in the beginning of COVID like before we got strict and like it got serious. And I was just meaning guys off of hinge. Do you guys have that dating button? Yeah, we're
both on hinge you want you on right we caught right. Are you guys caught right? Are you on Riah?
Yeah, but I never use it. Why it's so great.
I love Raya
Raya, I'm so weird. I'm so extreme. Like I'm either talking to like 50 guys every week and I have like so many boyfriends. I can't keep up. Or like I'm talking to nobody, which is me right now. Or I like one guy and he's like the apple of my eye. Is that the word for it? Yeah, that was my eye. My future husband. He just doesn't know it and then when I tell him He's like, No, I'm not and then I'm like, Okay, thank you talking about
so much like me. We're both on hinge as well. And I basically so Riah here in Australia is not what he is in LA. I mainly Right when I go to LA and I got it like quite a bit but it's so much fun like there are so many more people on it and they're all beautiful as opposed to Hey enjoy you've got like Bob who's
you know hey guys some of this got the Andrea okay?
Okay honestly I I love the guys off of hinge more than I love the guys for Brian
Are they real right they're real guys with like you know real personalities not just pretty you guys on Hendra
hot like guys on right a lot of them are social climbers too like I feel like it's not that great. Well there
are other actors we have to understand I'm coming from Australia so I'm excited to meet an actor or DJ Yeah. Where's your like? Boring like try to No,
I get it like my friend who's a YouTuber his own RIAA and she always gets so excited. And like we laugh about how different we are because she's like when she gets when she gets matched with like an actor or a singer. Her first thought even though she has like 12 million followers on YouTube, she just goes like, Oh my God. He's so famous. Have to go with him. And she's like, I know that you're so different because I feel like when you get matched with these people, you're just like your first thought is, I wonder how big his IQ is. And that is always my thought. I'm like,
who is the funniest, sweetest person you've seen on RIAA?
Am I even legally able to say that I feel like
yeah, I mean, yeah, I'll tell you, man I saw. This is very early on when I first got the app. Actually, I've got two funny ones. MC Levin from Superbad, whoever the fuck that actor is. Oh, he went to my high school and jack Malfoy.
I don't know who that is. But I'm really
Harry Potter from Harry Potter. He's like the white haired villain from Harry Potter. And I was like,
Oh my god, that's so cool. You know, he like literally had to stop acting because he was getting so many death threats. Right after
Harry Potter. Who have you seen? Have you seen Come on, you have to give us one name.
Um, I've met with like athletes or like the league like the lead singer of Imagine Dragons. One of the guys. Five Seconds of Summer on they're super religious. I thought Imagine Dragons were like a Mormon. Yeah. They're not their ex Mormon, like the one thing when he was separated from his wife we but like a lot of the people I match with I just connect with like sounds oh my god wow I just rise highly I am what I was about to say I connect with him spiritually that's I was gonna say and I was like oh my god
I chose five souls or Australia you know that right?
Five Seconds of Summer yeah match with someone on their on there who we were talking for like a full month, every day and then he was coming to LA like he had a show in LA. And he was like, I'm actually going to be in LA for two days. I was like, my bomb. Let's hang out cool. Show me you dick. I heard you have such a big dick too. And then I didn't hear from him that night. And the next day I was like, What Is everything okay, and then you just like, I think I'm going to try to get back with my girlfriend with my ex girlfriend. I like blah blah. And I was like, Okay, cool. Thanks for being honest. So anyway, that's what happened. Yeah, I didn't care but he was such
a nice guy.
Is that the only Australian guy of date or if you did other Australian guys,
I can't I can't really like I understand you guys as accents. So well. But I feel like a lot of times I can't understand other people's accents as well. British or Australian. Like I did a British guys that they talked to me and I'll just be nodding but I'm like, I have no idea what this guy's saying. It's a struggle for me and like I need to ask these phraya and other musicians. Yeah. I think
there are so many Aussies in LA, they're like I went to I go to LA. It's like, I end up hanging out with just a bunch of Ozzy's.
I just like, love the accent so much like I feel like it would be. I feel like if I dated a guy that was Australian, he would probably block me and never speak to me again or something because I'll be that annoying person that I like when you guys are talking. This whole time of recording. It's been really hard for me to not mimic you and repeat what you're saying. Like it's been an inner struggle that I've been stopping myself from doing. So I can be like more professional, but I've been dying to do
you're welcome to imitate me. I don't mind.
I don't mind.
That's a terrible Australian. accent
accents are really hard to mimic.
Yeah, we they are and I've I've been told by mainly guys in LA that I sound like a posh Australian. Oh,
yeah, cuz my friend Ks Boone's. She goes by case Casey case Boone's. She's Australian and like, I was just with her new jaw. So you guys aren't really similar to me. I love that. I love your accent. Oh, thank you. Would you guys ever date Americans?
But I have and I would again, Yes, I have. Yes.
Yes. Is that where the guys say things differently or do
not at all? I think that American guys I, I just find when I'm in LA, and I go on dates with American guys, just like the egomaniacs. They don't take no for an answer. They're always really surprised at how opinionated I am like when I'm like, hey, yeah, like don't wanna sleep with you. They're like, what do you mean baby girl? And I'm like, do I want to fuck you like have zero interest, and they get really like, offended by that. And then they turned nasty. I mean, these guys on Raya and they're like, actors, we think that you know, the sun shines out of their dick, and they're not that great. So maybe just like is
actually chlamydia is not the son you should get that check
I need to get on hand you I'm in LA next rather than Riah you should I like had
some amazing dates from hinge
I will I'm obsessed with your igtv series housewife in training. I I definitely need to upskill in the kitchen if I'm going to ever convince someone to marry me if we were to flip the concept what skills Would you like to see your potential future husband? brush up on
what skills I want to see him do? Hmm um
some of the like American men are such like little bitches like they like like this one guy was talking to he picked up he was supposed to go on a date and then he texted me and he's like, I was moving furniture all day and then I got lightheaded because my blood my blood sugar was low or something. So I had to like relax and I was just like, I cancelled our date. Yes, I built a furniture so I think I want to see that their hands on building stuff. So then because my father's like That's so then it'd be cool if I had a meet like that. Also another skill I would love to see that they had was communication skills.
That would be good. How about just like working on yourself? How about just like, you know, going to therapy, that would be fucking great if you actually acknowledge your own trauma and was working on that. That would be fantastic. I'd be into that sexy. Yeah, I agree. Guys, I really do that. Okay, buddy, count. Do you think this is something we need to be worried about? Yes or no?
Do I think this is something we need to worry about men and their body count
their body count our body count their body count.
I actually for whatever reason, I it's weird, but I like it. I like dating a guy more. If I know that he's fucked a lot of girls.
I kind of agree because it's like, well, you've just got to have you know, quite a few skills and tricks. It's like No, I just wanted to get out of a system because once he goes once he enters me That's it. That's for life, like your mind. Do not enter anyone else like that dick is mine. So like, I just want to make sure like he got it. Have a system he fucked everyone had his game bangs Good for you. Once you're with me just know like your mind. That's it. You lost lost up on the on the train tracks. Okay, how do you personally identify with being worthy of love? How do you implement that in your life? So I struggle a lot. I've got this cool belief. We touched on this a few episodes ago, with my psychologist, I had this core belief that I'm unlovable or hard to love, despite having a great childhood, who fucking knows where it came from. But yeah, I just think I'm impossible to love. And so I continue to date avoidant attachment types because they just reinforce that rather than dating secure attachment types, you feel uncomfy so how do you personally identify why do you think you'll you know, deserving of love, we've tried to figure it out violet, I'm still in therapy for I think that my therapy for it and you know, realising
my mama, my mom got very sick when I was 15. She had early onset dementia, and she was basically lost to me from 15. And I have it's kind of a bad issues from that even though it wasn't her choice, obviously, she was very sick. I felt kind of it feels like everyone I've ever loved has left me eventually. And then I dated a bunch of fucking narcissistic assholes who were emotionally abusive, who made me feel small and crazy and but other things and all that kind of stuff adds up to me thinking that I'm just a lot of hard work.
So, you just said that you've dated people who are narcissistic in this and that your conclusion from that was that you're the hard
worker. I'm definitely getting that I'm actually I've just met a guy who's, you know, he's so lovely. I'm trying my best not to run for the hills.
Do you think you're able to love somebody if you don't love yourself?
I definitely Yeah, I love I do love myself. It's just been a long process. It's been a process of psychologists kinesiologists, acupuncturist, psychics, neuro psychologists, it's you know, it's a work in progress, but I'm definitely Getting there, but how do you personally identify with being
like I'm interviewing you
now and I feel like I feel like I need you for a therapy session a little bit.
No, I mean honestly when you everything you just said like, the only reason I turn on you because I like I was feeling your pain and I just like wanted to cry because I felt so bad like I like I don't want to like I don't wanna make this interview about you but I just like I felt sorry for like the younger you that had to go through that with your mother like that must have been really hard so I'm really sorry. It's
okay It's not thank you that's very sweet and thrown me um, yeah. She passed away last year so it's been a long journey but it's it's a journey is now over. And I'm you know, now focusing on myself and hopefully finding someone which I've been single for seven years. So it's been a it's been a lot.
It's hard to date, especially in today. Well also like when you're saying of data, a lot of narcissistic men. And sometimes like we need to understand that if you start to feel You're dating the same man just in different bodies. Yeah. And you have to look into the inner self. So I like recently was reading this and I've talked about all my dumb bitch. I think I talked about my dumb bitch bootcamp episode is that after that your thoughts become reality offers show?
Absolutely, like a self fulfilling prophecy at the moment.
Yeah. So if you're constantly thinking you're going to end up with somebody that's going to cheat on you, that's where you're gonna end up accidentally attracting and you're going to end up dating the guy who's gonna cheat and I feel like I i and also like, I feel like that's why I don't like to date until I'm the best version of myself for myself because like the beginning of the year, I feel like I was feeling lower about myself and ended up attract because we, every everyone we date is a mirror of ourselves. And what that means is that when I was feeling low about myself, the beginning of the year was dating men who, who were also feeling really low about themselves, and they're making me feel shittier about myself because I was dating them because I had to constantly dim my light in order for them to feel good. These men liked it.
What have you got that violet that there was a ring at the doorbell? What have we collected?
sushi? I got sushi.
Why? Hang on? When did you manage to order that you've been talking to us for a while now went How did you sneakily when I was peeing?
When I was speaking before we started the podcast, I just reordered an old order that I've already met had.
The multitasking is phenomenal. I'm blown away.
What was your question to me so I can answer that instead of me analysing you? I'm sorry, how
do you know I do it as well? How do you personally identify with being worthy of love? And how do you implement that in your life?
Well, okay, so how identify being worthy of love is first and I've said this before, and I'm just gonna always say this. Before you can expect anyone else to want to fuck you, you have to want to fuck yourself. And what that means is that you have to actually have the confidence and what I've realised like when the beginning of the year, I had more of a false confidence. So that's why when I was Dating these men who are also not the best for me because I was in a low place, then, like try to run away or they'll be over me even though at first they worship Me, it would be because my insecurities came out. And that's when I realised that you have to actually be really actually confident. Because if you're pretending to be confident that confidence is going to fizzle out and your real insecurities are going to show. So that's why like, it's really important for me to constantly now be the best version of myself before I'm ready to give myself to someone else. And how I work on my self worth and loving myself is I tell myself all the time, and, and, and I fake it with myself. I feel like the more you tell yourself how great you are, the more you're going to start believing it. And a great example is when I went to Utah, with the girls that I was with, they were all skinnier than me. Which is so funny. I feel like I'm like Did anyone else realise that all the girls are way hotter than me like I was so skinny. And I'm just like curvier than that. I think you're fucking hot. I love you, thank you. But the truth is, I was thought of than them like I'm not in a fat way but like I'm heavier than them and they're also some of them are shorter. Me, so like, they just already look so much tinier than me. I can first I felt really insecure and self conscious about it like fuck I'm gonna have to be in a bathing suit every single day and they're so skinny. But then I was like, I'll just pretend like I don't notice it and I pretended and then I started to believe it because I forgot that I know my body doesn't look like this because it's built differently and then it seems the the guys were all like trying to pursue me all the guys like every single night cuz and I was just like we really they still for a second I was like be silly like are trying to fuck me even though there's like every other girl is skinnier than me. So a made me realise guys will fuck almost anything so just that it's confidence like you just have to believe yourself when you and you have to also you have to also like know your flaws and highlight them but they're they're amazing about you like as long as you're aware of your own flaws. Then you're just like it is what it is
your point just said about faking it till you make it sometimes that's really fucking works. Like, there have been times when I've had to go to events and I've had like half an hour to get changed from from a movie premiere. And I turned in an outfit and I looked in the mirror and I'm like, Oh, I don't fucking love it. But I'm like, you're at a time so just own it. But you fucking head up high and and walk in like you own the place. And you know, you get there in five minutes, and maybe I can care what you're wearing. You'd have a good time. Yeah.
And if you feel insecure, like it like people feel it. And like, because that's like, I've had friends who are the most beautiful models in the world, but they're insecure, they enter a room, they disappear, because they're just like acting like oh, I don't know, is this like, I'm funny?
You should say that because I know you're about to get a roommate. Who is possibly I mean, she's phenomenal looking. Francesco, for our go from to what to handle. Talk us through that. So you're renovating her bedroom? How did that even come about?
Yeah, she is really hot and like we have to be careful with her like not trying to like fuck us. Buffy
We got hooked up, right? You hooked up in your pool.
Man, I did my research. What's? What's the 411?
Um, yeah, she's really hot. But apparently what I love it. We're both Scorpios I feel like we're both like very secretive and we're, like, drawn into something. So apparently I asked her when did you think because we're just going to vary the type of girl that like, she's very sexual and like, she doesn't hook up with everyone even though that's what the media makes us seem. But she's more like, Can I get this or not? Like it's more like a game for her. I feel like in her age, so I feel like she told me that when we had an interview because I met her because I interviewed her for my podcast. Um,
and JoJo, by the way, that's a fucking like, Dream result.
Oh my god. I'm also gonna interview Demi Lovato. Really? She's a fuckup but I shouldn't say that. Yeah. Hopefully she still does. Um, yeah. So when I interviewed Francesca, my house, I still didn't think anything. I'd be like, I don't even know if we'll be friends because I like it takes me a second sometimes to open up to people and like, I even know if you buy like Francesca apparently told me that she already was thinking like that there's a potential between us hooking up which I was like Why? Okay
as someone okay wait hang on someone so you think this is a good idea to move in together then? Well this is a fucking terrible idea I'm just letting you know right now.
No because you went on vacation together you too Oh we did a couple literally.
So you you think it's a good idea
to everyone's like she's not your own way she's your girlfriend yet
like what like what's happening here because the whole the biggest lesbian jet going around is like what is it lesbian bring to a second day a you hole. So you dating Are you house? Me? No,
we're friends is just like so basically. And when they're paying out like I was at my friend's house and my guy friends saw she was hot. So they told me to invite her over and I did but then you're a good friend.
as requested. He's Francesca
No, yeah. I bought When Jessica then I was just like she's she is so hot and then the more I drink I don't know. I think she made a move on me. I don't know how it happened she wouldn't be some wise
I'm just He's not answering my question violet. How is this gonna work? Are you fucking housemates Are you fucking?
We're housemates and we've I feel like we've already gotten used to it. So like that was the first time we hooked up and then that night, I she brought out something else. She's going to be looking for a place and I said, That's, I have like, I have like, two extra bedrooms in my house. Like you can totally live here and I've been wanting like a roommate for a little bit plus, like, you know, she'll rent you know?
Yo, like, probably like make you eggs like naked in the morning like it's really Yeah, I bet she does. I bet she does.
Alright, guys, I've got a quick game for us before we wrap things
up. Okay, sorry I was really into that conversation.
We're gonna be roommates not lovers like we we meet we we have boundaries. So whenever I'm sure
and I saw the the room looks beautiful. I know you're giving a bit of a lick of paint. It looks great. Yeah.
Sorry if I wait to move into the third room I'm really excited about that. You're welcome to move in.
I've never been to LA Can I come stay as Oh,
I'm kidding. I you and two girls because it's not the No. I'm sorry. But I mean, for a
place to stay in LA show
on jazz take us back on track because we're getting I'm getting flustered, go. Um,
so it's a quick vi game. I've got a few questions here. I'm going to ask you both guests first, violet, so you can answer first violet. What's exciting you right now?
Nothing. Oh, fuck, that's dismal. Okay, I'm sorry. My podcasts.
Yeah, nice answer
Telly. Well, obviously we're insightful lockdown. We can't leave our houses. We have a pm curfew. So I'm going to say the prospect of moving in with Francesca and violet in their life.
Okay, the biggest accomplished accomplishment in life that makes you the most proud
daddy issues. I mean, that's a great accomplishment. I think graduating from you University with my journalism degree I was the first kid enough family to graduate and I just never thought that I would actually stick to something like that. So probably getting my degree.
I would also like to mention the daddy issues. I have a trademark so I could actually Sue anyone that uses that term. Fuck that's impressive is insane. That's why I'm so proud of my brand.
Yeah, absolutely. is insane. Okay, what's the weirdest thing about you?
Um, I love smelling everything. It's a weird thing that has to do with my when my father would be away for a long time. And then he would come home for like a few weeks or a month. And he would be working on things and you would be sweating when he's working on it. And I started to connect his sense of like sweat to my dad to love. So every time I would smell like sweat, I would think of my dad and then growing up as I've gotten older, and I just like smelling things. And sometimes when no one's looking, I even like if I think I'm sweating. I like no one's looking and I go put my hand in my armpit and I sniff it and it smells good. And I'm so embarrassed to admit that I enjoy.
That's completely fine. I also feel like I have a strong sense of humour. I often smell things as well. Like
you smell urine on page chess.
Well, doesn't everyone do it? Just like if you
what I mean? I wouldn't do what violets doing. I probably wouldn't stick my hand out
in the hall. What's that? Maybe when she does like, and then she puts it in front of us. Yeah,
it's from it's from SNL. No, or no, that SNL girl was
really, really something yet. Are you talking about Molly Shannon? That's
me. I do that. That is me. That's me.
That's pretty weird. And I love it. That's great.
That's Holly. What's yours? Oh, I'm sorry. Like lame. Now. I have to if I'm eating like Skittles m&ms. Oh, teases great. Strawberries. I have to aid them in even numbers.
That's very weird.
I think it's I think it's borderline OCD. Yeah. So if I like pull out some maltesers into my hand to like sit in the couch. It has to have to be even numbers in my head head. His neck sounds a little bit shaky. But what is the craziest thing you've ever said in bed?
Oh, damn, I can't even I don't know the last time I had sex. I feel like I can't even like Remember something cheeky, like your Australian say? craziest thing, just choke me. And that's fucking so vanilla vile. If that's honestly the best you've got for us, I'm disappointed in you. I don't have anything that's like that's abnormal that I've said,
what I tell you and so on then we can come back to Bali she has anything else.
I'm trying to think I'm, I'm like, I'm a real team player. Like if someone's into some wage shit, I'm pretty much down to go with the flow if it doesn't fit them. Without you spoken about the guy that made me wear a PVC suit and then doused me in coconut oil. Oh, maybe
I talked about what Ryan is about to have sex with a guy talked about how amazing this other guy's Dick was and how much I love fucking him. And then I'm like, should we have sex? And then he couldn't get his dick up. So I would say in a way that was the craziest thing that I've learned not to do.
Yeah, okay. In a similar fashion and following violence. Violence guide I obviously used to date girls and now I date mainly men and I sometimes if I've been drinking a lot, I start telling the guys that Like it's really hard to make me calm and girls away better in bed and then suddenly they feel really insecure and don't want to do anything so that might be similar vein
classic all right dream podcast guest I'm
like yes from you v Demi Lovato but I'm getting I'm pretty sure I mean asked her and she said she's down so her or also Joe Rogan but we more also be really cool if I was on his bakos
I feel like they're both very much in your grasp like I feel like you'll do those in the next couple of months. absolutely killing it. Yeah, absolutely fucking killing it. I'm mindset weed and like a bit dorky, but Louis Thoreau, like, he's so sexy and he's so smart. And I just I love everything he does. I love his new podcast and I would just love to have Louis Thoreau he would want to talk to me at old sliders I would love if you don't dream podcast guests like you just
never know. I feel like I pull myself down like that all the time. And I won't reach out to people because I'm just like, they're not gonna want to do it, but like, I'm a kid. You not Every time I say this, my sister's always like, why wouldn't they want to do it? Just do it. And so that's why when I like reached out to Demi, I was like, hey, I'd love if you did my podcast and she was like, yeah, love so to like, just have people connect and I was like, What
do you think? Also at the moment with everyone being I know you guys aren't literally stuck at home like we are. But do you think COVID in 2020 and everyone sort of having this weed he has made people more open to that kind of a thing like collaborating and helping people out and
no collaborating makes it harder because of COVID
give up? We've got like, because this year in LA we're in Melbourne and it feels like you're in my lounge room.
Yeah, but I don't think most people like
don't want to do don't do zoom.
No, they like no most people just and I don't think so I feel like me too hard because it's like I also love like touching people and being face to face with them. So like it does make it more complex because Louie,
Louie cerros latest podcast is all about it's about that it's about shopping people that he maybe would never been able to sit down with in person but he's able Wouldn't interview them because you know, we're all stuck on zoom. So that's really
interesting and I guess I never thought about it like that but now that makes me take you more in and then I guess maybe reach out to more people that I didn't think I could
yeah but obviously Demi's probably in LA so you can in your in normal world I guess
you're right like I don't normally even say Really? Yes the podcasts and now I have been more open to say it
Yeah. So what was special about us like pump my ties up jewel? That means an Australian to pump your tires up? Yeah. Like, why did you say yes to doing this podcast?
Because I've told myself to start saying yes to more things because I think it's like, I feel like sometimes I can be closed off for so focused on my own work. And I'm not really much a collaborator, collaborator, as much as like a loner, but like I've been telling myself lately to say yes to more things because it's like, you get to meet more cool people. Like I'm like, I'm probably missing out on so many like, awesome. People are like awesome opportunities because I'm so stuck with being like, I don't have time because I have to like just like stay home and just do everything I need to do and like just Like be alone and and like I feel like I've every time now that I've said yes to a podcast so I always feel like I learned a lot from it whether it's things that I'm saying that I'm just like, Oh that's good advice for myself or things that the other person is saying I don't know like I really it's like it's nice because I'm we don't really get to talk to them many people right now with COVID. So this is like, we're like hanging out right now. So I like it. Well, especially
us like I don't know if you're aware. But yeah, where we are. We're just not like right now. We've been literally stuck at home. We can't see anyone have any friends over. We've got a curfew. You have to be at home.
I can't believe the curfew that's really shocking. Have to be at home.
8pm to 5am.
I wish they did the curfew with us. Really? I think though, I think maybe that would speed things up for us. Yeah, we have
to wear masks everywhere. We can go outside for an hour a day like it's we're in the most strict lockdown rules in any country, any city in the world right now where we are
okay. But also I wanted to say that I don't say yes to everything. So I don't want you guys to think that now like I say, it's everything and that's I'm on here, like I said, so obviously can be picky, but I am more responsive now and like I'm down and like you seem really cool. So I'm just like, yeah, plus like Australian accent is so interesting.
Like, it's just like that go on Jess, you want to ask question?
I was gonna say I've got two more questions and then we're going to let you go probably violet. Okay biggest piece of advice or being comfortable in your own skin?
Just know, like, no, they a, I guess know that you're amazing. And regardless of how many other beautiful women in the world, there are none of them are you and that's what makes you feel special and unique. And just know that everyone is just as secure as you are. I feel like that helps me better understand that my security is am I alone with them? And that? I don't know. God made you. You got me do exactly the way you're supposed to be. I don't know. That's why I view it. I think that's why it's so weird that I keep mentioning I know I mentioned God twice now. So
not all wait at all. No. My would be I've always focused on, you know, I've never felt completely comfortable in my own skin physically. So I've always focused on my other things I like about myself. So I know I have a brain I know I'm funny. I know unkind and thoughtful. So I just focus on, you know, things that I love about myself rather than things that I don't like about myself.
Wow, that's a good answer. I would like to take ramseur
you can share
you also great. You had my original answer. So I had two quick things really quickly. On No, that was an amazing answer. I love that I'm gonna I'm gonna start thinking like that, too.
I think that a long time ago, especially being in this industry vial, and I'm sure you understand it too. Like when I started doing, you know, getting invited to events and premiers and freshman openings, I very quickly realised I am never going to be the most beautiful girl in the room. I'm never going to be the model in the corner or, you know, the stunning, you know, girl over there. I'm just never gonna be that person and that's okay. That's okay. Because I know for a fact I'm probably smarter and funnier and more loving than them. So I'm just going to focus on that I'm going to focus on you know, yeah, reading books and and getting learning new things and and I know that that's what my skills and attributes also, and I'm pretty happy with that I'd rather be. I'd rather be the smartest, funniest we just go in the room in the most beautiful any day of the week.
Yeah, no, I completely agree with that. And I'll be honest, like, I feel like most of the time, I feel like I'm not the prettiest girl in the room. And most of the time again, secure most of the time. I feel like everyone takes so much better pictures of me like everyone's so much prettier. Like, I hate looking at pictures of myself on Google because I'm like, I always turn out so ugly to me. Like I've learned to just like, ignore it and just tell myself amazing. I feel like that's why I always come on so confident. I'm really like, Nah, there's so many things I don't like about myself if I really sit and think about it, but I agree with you in the way that Yeah, I just say like not, it doesn't matter because for the right person, they're going to love everything about me exactly the way I am.
Exactly. Okay, and if there was one piece of advice you could share and live by for the rest of your life, what would it be?
Oh, I have one. Um
Don't judge people so quickly. Because I feel like in this whole world we are the biggest thing we yearn for is to be understood yet it seems like we constantly judge others so quickly and we and we decide to write them off or we can be mean to them on the internet. And I my biggest piece of advice for people to be, it would be to instead of focusing your hate on so many other people holding on to so much hate in your heart, I recommend figuring out why you have all the sand in your heart and to let it go. Because it gets really heavy. And just like when you carrying a backpack, they keep putting books in there. Eventually you can't carry that backpack because the same thing with your emotional self, if you're going to keep putting all these emotions into your heart is going to be hard to carry out after a while and life gets so much easier when you let go of all this hate and you stop attacking other people and you just work on yourself and you and you wake up every day like feeling loving and Feeling good and not only for yourself, life gets easier, but life gets easier for the people around you because you have no idea how much just being kind to other people makes a difference in their world.
And I will just take that answer. And that's also my answer. So
it was a really bloody good answer.
I just said exactly same thing I was thinking up so we'll just go with violet townside because that's much better than my one line that I had in my head. What was your line? Well, I've always loved the expression actually was gonna tattooed on me and I haven't I might still do Who knows? Love, love rewards the brave. I'm long. I'm all about love. And I just think that you just take chances and if you love someone tell them
I like that too.
Much more succinct. No, I loved your TED talk. I just snot
it's not when I laugh.
No, I loved it. I love Joe's it was much better than mine. So I'll take yours. Thank you. file it thank you so so much for coming on too much Tally. Where can we find you on Social media.
Thank you so much for having me. And you guys can find me on a viola Benson, which is my personal Instagram at daddy issues underscore, which is my main account, and at two times to be crazy, which is my podcast, and it's on every Thursday from solo episodes to a bunch of fun guests. Check it out.
And finally, when I'm moving in again,
whenever you want, you're welcome to join.
I have another bedroom for you. I'm so excited. Okay, best of luck with everything you have going on. It has been so much fun and I have learned a lot a lot from you. And I'm sure listeners of the podcast will take away a lot of golden gems. So thank you again for joining us
as so much fun. Thank you guys for having me.
You guys can listen to too much Telly every Tuesday. You can find us on Instagram at too much Telly and listen to the podcast on all your favourite podcast platforms. And until then, I will see you next Tuesday.